I am 16 and i'm really close to my parents. But when I want to go to a dance with a guy or something, they freak out saying they don't even know the guy I am going with. I met this guy almost 2 years older than me and I like him as a friend and want to know him better. My mom wants me to have nothing to do with him because she says I don't know him. I don't know him because there is no chance to talk to him. What can I do to let them know I am not going to be an idiot and am mature enough? I know how this world is messed up, I know I can't to certain things. It is so hard for me to meet friends when 3/4 the time, I am being forced to stay home.My parents are too overprotective... its like they're telling me I can't like any boys or anything?
Wait until you're 18, then you can make your own decisions.My parents are too overprotective... its like they're telling me I can't like any boys or anything?
DAMN! TELL THEM YOUR GONNA TURN LESBIAN :]
sit down and talk about start of with a easy starter like
So why are you.........
sumthin like that
Listen to them it is for your own good. You have plenty of years left to date and stuff like that so just listen to them for now. If you take one wrong step now you are going to regret it the rest of your life. Trust me you will have fun later. I am 23 ( a guy) have never been on a date I did not go to my high school prom or homecomings, I have went through college Without a GF and now that I have graduated I can find one so that I have more time to spent with her. Hope this helps
your parents are just worried about you. they are being protective because they love you. they probably trust you it's just that they don't trust teenage guys. just tell them that you would like a little bit more freedom and try to negotiate
Friday, 12 November 2010
Why cant I dance?
I always see guys that cant dance, but they are out there dancing like there is no tomorrow.
I see them and realize I can atleast move better than them, but then when I get on the dance floor I start dancing but feel rediculous and almost lose interest in the girls Im dancing with because I feel like a fool or that I cant dance.
So why the hell cant I dance? and how in the world do you learn to dance? Im not talking like music video dance but just dancing at a bar/club.
Whats the freaking secret?Why cant I dance?
stop caring that you look stupid while you're dancing!
when you care about other people lookin at you, you hold back.
just do whatever you want, and you'll have fun! :]
and maybe...cuz you're white? :P juuuust kidding.Why cant I dance?
because you are white
LOL trust me I know how u feel....I can't dance either....I am a girl tho...I thought all girls could dance...but not me! If u learn the secret please let me know!
Try to increase your self esteem! When you feel comfortable with the way you dance, you'll enjoy it.
increase the alcohol consumption
i got the same problem... who cares
the secret is having fun with it! Doesnt matter how you do it as long as you have the time of your life!! Good luck!
Take some dance lessons..it is fun !!
I taught my husband and kids how to dance !!
every one can dance, it only requires a little rocking back and forth, moving your feet and arms? why do people always say they cant dance? everyone can dance.......unless you dont have legs and even then you can find a way
Just do the head nod!
Just keep it really simple and move to middle of the group where its so crowded no one can even see anyone else. Just have fun I'm sure no one is singling you out and watching just you.
You probably put your shoes on the wrong feet again.
Relax....and quit worrying about how you look.
Feel the music and go with it.
the secret is don't think about what everyone else is thinking about you, just have your own fun.
much easier said than done, i know, but those people who dance worse than you are either
A. convinced that they CAN dance, or
B. apathetic to how they look while they are just trying to enjoy themselves
You need to be a very confident person to dance in public no matter what style of dancing. If your not confident , dont dance . Not to sound mean, but i reckon most men look stupid on the dance floor. lol
You're self conscious. Have several drinks to help you loosen up. Have a friend to teach you some moves as well.
I can't dance either.
You need to loosen up.
You just need to go with the music and forget everything else. If you start worrying about the way you move then you'll start to stiffen up and lose the rythum.
Lose yourself in the music and just have fun.
short answer, grab some soul.
Dance formula: Level of Pride %26lt; Number of drinks in your system
It's all in the beat of the song, your dance movements should co inside with the rhythm of the song. Look into getting yourself some dance lessons, there are tons of dance lessons going on and if you jump into a class that teaches modern dance you will gain that confidence that you have been looking for. Don't be afraid to be on the dance floor, there are others in those same shoes. Just relax and be yourself and don't worry about what the next person is thinking, God loves you and you are one of His children and He loves you very much so get out there, get yourself some dance lessons then get out on that dance floor you'll be glad that you did...Hope this helps.
Because you cant dance.
learn THE MONO!! if u hav On Demand great. go to entertainment click mtv then click dancelife. they probly hav it or removed it?? anyways just stop worrying wat ppl think. just put ur hands up and dance!
aww its ok. everyone can dance :) theres no special way you have to dance. remember -- dance like no ones watching :) if any one's going to make fun of you then let them its not like you'll see them again or anything. just have fun and enjoy yourself :) its ok if your not a good dancer. im not a good singer at all. but i sing in the streets when im walking home with my friend from school :) its fun. go out on that dance floor and enjoy yourself :)
I see them and realize I can atleast move better than them, but then when I get on the dance floor I start dancing but feel rediculous and almost lose interest in the girls Im dancing with because I feel like a fool or that I cant dance.
So why the hell cant I dance? and how in the world do you learn to dance? Im not talking like music video dance but just dancing at a bar/club.
Whats the freaking secret?Why cant I dance?
stop caring that you look stupid while you're dancing!
when you care about other people lookin at you, you hold back.
just do whatever you want, and you'll have fun! :]
and maybe...cuz you're white? :P juuuust kidding.Why cant I dance?
because you are white
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LOL trust me I know how u feel....I can't dance either....I am a girl tho...I thought all girls could dance...but not me! If u learn the secret please let me know!
Try to increase your self esteem! When you feel comfortable with the way you dance, you'll enjoy it.
increase the alcohol consumption
i got the same problem... who cares
the secret is having fun with it! Doesnt matter how you do it as long as you have the time of your life!! Good luck!
Take some dance lessons..it is fun !!
I taught my husband and kids how to dance !!
every one can dance, it only requires a little rocking back and forth, moving your feet and arms? why do people always say they cant dance? everyone can dance.......unless you dont have legs and even then you can find a way
Just do the head nod!
Just keep it really simple and move to middle of the group where its so crowded no one can even see anyone else. Just have fun I'm sure no one is singling you out and watching just you.
You probably put your shoes on the wrong feet again.
Relax....and quit worrying about how you look.
Feel the music and go with it.
the secret is don't think about what everyone else is thinking about you, just have your own fun.
much easier said than done, i know, but those people who dance worse than you are either
A. convinced that they CAN dance, or
B. apathetic to how they look while they are just trying to enjoy themselves
You need to be a very confident person to dance in public no matter what style of dancing. If your not confident , dont dance . Not to sound mean, but i reckon most men look stupid on the dance floor. lol
You're self conscious. Have several drinks to help you loosen up. Have a friend to teach you some moves as well.
I can't dance either.
You need to loosen up.
You just need to go with the music and forget everything else. If you start worrying about the way you move then you'll start to stiffen up and lose the rythum.
Lose yourself in the music and just have fun.
short answer, grab some soul.
Dance formula: Level of Pride %26lt; Number of drinks in your system
It's all in the beat of the song, your dance movements should co inside with the rhythm of the song. Look into getting yourself some dance lessons, there are tons of dance lessons going on and if you jump into a class that teaches modern dance you will gain that confidence that you have been looking for. Don't be afraid to be on the dance floor, there are others in those same shoes. Just relax and be yourself and don't worry about what the next person is thinking, God loves you and you are one of His children and He loves you very much so get out there, get yourself some dance lessons then get out on that dance floor you'll be glad that you did...Hope this helps.
Because you cant dance.
learn THE MONO!! if u hav On Demand great. go to entertainment click mtv then click dancelife. they probly hav it or removed it?? anyways just stop worrying wat ppl think. just put ur hands up and dance!
aww its ok. everyone can dance :) theres no special way you have to dance. remember -- dance like no ones watching :) if any one's going to make fun of you then let them its not like you'll see them again or anything. just have fun and enjoy yourself :) its ok if your not a good dancer. im not a good singer at all. but i sing in the streets when im walking home with my friend from school :) its fun. go out on that dance floor and enjoy yourself :)
Freak dancing ,dancing, 14 girl problem?
hey so im 14 and i have liked this one guy for about 4 months. he is really popular and cute. so there was a dance today and i kinda wanted to dance with him. he was dancing with a couple girls and was looking my way but i didnt have the courage to dance with him. it seems the more i pay attention to him the less he is into me. the less i pay attention to him and ignore him the more he strives for my attention. like in class ill ignore him and ill be talking to a friend and he will just come up and be like'; hey(my nickname) hows it going girl';. he does it in a playful sort of way. so my question is how can i give him some attention and let him know i like him while still playing hard to get?Freak dancing ,dancing, 14 girl problem?
You're both playing hard to get, so ONE OF YOU MAKE A MOVE!Freak dancing ,dancing, 14 girl problem?
hmm thats a hard one. but u could try to show body language that u like him. try to always be around him and everything. but dont be too clingy. that just gets annoying.
Omg I know how you feel just kinda flirt with him.
Hmm tough question. It seems very immature though, the whole scheming to get a guy to like you and trying out different tactics/plans. Depending on the guy, I'd take a direct approach and ask him out on a date (be clear that it's not just an outing but a date-date). You can always play hard to get after you're a couple ^_~ (just don't publicly bash him, that's a bad move by girls...completely rude). What I mean by playing hard to get after being a couple is teasing him, making him earn hugs, not giving him hugs or kisses if he does something you like...leading him on with flirty/sexy movies (this last one can be done if ur dating or just into him), then stopping =P Though it's up to you, you are young and have options...just don't be too immature about going after him, you know? He obvioulsy likes the chase and wants attention and has an ego, so play to his weakenesses...make him feel like a manly man and let him chase you to some degree.
You're both playing hard to get, so ONE OF YOU MAKE A MOVE!Freak dancing ,dancing, 14 girl problem?
hmm thats a hard one. but u could try to show body language that u like him. try to always be around him and everything. but dont be too clingy. that just gets annoying.
Omg I know how you feel just kinda flirt with him.
Hmm tough question. It seems very immature though, the whole scheming to get a guy to like you and trying out different tactics/plans. Depending on the guy, I'd take a direct approach and ask him out on a date (be clear that it's not just an outing but a date-date). You can always play hard to get after you're a couple ^_~ (just don't publicly bash him, that's a bad move by girls...completely rude). What I mean by playing hard to get after being a couple is teasing him, making him earn hugs, not giving him hugs or kisses if he does something you like...leading him on with flirty/sexy movies (this last one can be done if ur dating or just into him), then stopping =P Though it's up to you, you are young and have options...just don't be too immature about going after him, you know? He obvioulsy likes the chase and wants attention and has an ego, so play to his weakenesses...make him feel like a manly man and let him chase you to some degree.
I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?
Over the weekend I went on a trip with my club to this college. There were people from other high schools there too. On saturday there was a dance and a lot of people asked me to dance. I danced with like 5 of them. And I mean like grinding. We didn't know each other because we were always from different schools. While I was dancing I felt kinda empty. There is this guy that lives kinda far from me, in my dad's state, and is obvious we like eachother a lot (he wasn't on the trip). I know I have really strong feelings for him. He stayed up till 2 in the morning on friday and saturday talking to me, even though I told him he could go since he was tired. He tells me stuff he wouldn't tell his friends thats really personal. In person he tries to act cocky/shy but on the phone i see him for how he is. I like freaking love this guy. We're like committed to eachother in that we don't date other people because we like eachother, but we aren't officially bf/gf. When the night was over I felt so guilty that I was actually shaking, like shivering really hard.
Was dancing with those guys cheating????I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?
Try to remember that what really matters is how you felt about the situation. You said you felt empty while you were dancing, and that you were so guilty you were shaking? You didn't get any pleasure from that experience and you saw how committed you really are to this guy. Learn from it, so you don't cause yourself more pain, but don't be too hard on yourself. I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?
Dancing isn't cheating.
**** no. if your not together. if you were. still, it isnt unless you kissed him or something.
No it's not cheating because 1) It was really just dancing and 2) and you huys really aren't dating.
no. your not in a relationship with ur friend so you couldn't have cheated on him. But I think ye need to sit down and talk bout ye'r feelings to be honest. Otherwise you'll never enjoy yerselves.
Perhaps dancing wasn't cheating, but the grinding certainly was.
she IS a ho...fo sho
No. You are fifteen for god's sake and like you said you are not even officially going out.
If he finds out and gets angry tell him to get a life. He would have done the same thing if not worse.
No - You Hadnt Even Touched Lips With Any Of The Other Guys.
But Really Thats A Little Mean On Your Boyfriend Aint It =( x
Dancing, flirting, looking at eye candy is NOT cheating.
when it gets to the point where you begin considering spending more time with those other guys or physically cheating then it becomes a problem. Remember: A sin of the mind is a sin in the heart.
You feel partially committed to this guy, but nothing is official which would explain your feelings of guilt.
Also, you are young. It is nice to practice monogamy whatever age you are, but if you don't feel ready to comit yourself that is ok. You have a lot of years ahead of you. :)
Just be upfront about your feelings.
No, unless there's verbal agreement anything's game.
no your 15 your not married to this guy just going out and having funn is not a bad thing to do..
its when its get further is when you need to watch out
na i think your a good girl, you cant really help it if you like someone else
Right.
Well you are just too cute. =L
It's obvious you feel EXTREMELY bad about this.
But technically, you aren't bf and gf so technically that wasn't cheating.
Even if you were I wouldn't say it was cheating.
It was dancing.
Fact.
You didn't kiss these guys right?
You were just having a good time,
that's not a sin.
Don't beat yourself up about it too much and if you do feel really really bad, just tell him in a casual way you danced with so many guys..
Then remind him you ';freaking love'; him.
Good luck!!
i dont think so cuz you are not technicallity with him.besides even if you have a bf and you dance w/ other boys doesnt mean that you are cheating.but it depends on HOW you dance.
Not this time- but now that you know how it makes you feel - don't dance with other guys like that and make your realtionship with the one you ';freaking love'; official!
dancing isn't cheating. especially if you're outta town. So long as you don't kiss any of them or anything else. But seeing as how this dude you might have ';cheated'; on isn't even your ';official bf';, it definitely isn't cheating. In fact at the stage of your relationship...it is impossible to cheat because neither one of you have made it official. Especially if in person he acts like he doesnt care about you.. what a jerk!
Not at all-you even said it yourself ';but we aren't officially bf/gf';
It was just simple fun. Nothing to be ashamed of.
I wish you two the best of luck as well (:
No i don;t think its cheating. if it went as far as kissing than that is tripping the line and falling from a large hill where no ones can hear you.
Emotional cheating maybe. You did say you didn't feel anything for those guys, but then why not just ignore them? Dancing isn't a crime tho.
It is not a big deal, but you should feel bad. Just don't flirt with other boys if you are committed to this one. The biggest downfall of our digital age is the amount of flirting going on between non-single people behind closed doors so if you can avoid being one of those people someday you should. Good luck.
its not cheating dont even trip on this and your not bf gf yet so take it easy and chill out but i cant tell what it DOES mean and say about you tho it means your a good girl and not a city slut like most people out there your gonna be a good wife and caring mother someday so chill the hell out and relax and talk to him and ask where this going and find away to make it work if thats what you both want
no hunni its not ur so young sweet heart if it is not afficial then u are doing nothing wrong having a sexy dance with some other boi is fine and if u like this boi why not make it affical as the way u explained it is that u really like him and he feels the same way p.s cheating is any thing from a kiss to sex hope this helps xxxxx
If you aren't dating him, then it cannot be cheating. It can be messed up to lead people along, and if you really like this guy stop screwing around (at least it made you feel bad so there is hope). If grinding on strangers makes you feel like you betrayed someone you like, stop doing it. Try things with the guy you like.
Plus guys can seem cocky if they are really shy because they seem stuck up if the 'ignore' you.
its only cheating if you kiss, take off clothes, or have sex. dancing with some guy you don't know or care about and will never see again doesn't matter. if you feel bad tell the guy you like what happened. if you keep secrets from him you'll feel worse and push him away. nothing kills relationships (friendships or b/f g/f relationships) faster than secrets and lies. you never know, he might have done something like that too and be feeling bad, if you tell him first he might be more willing to open to you even more.
well not really dancing is just for fun if it was like a school dance and you did it in front of him then yeah but nooo dont stress
Was dancing with those guys cheating????I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?
Try to remember that what really matters is how you felt about the situation. You said you felt empty while you were dancing, and that you were so guilty you were shaking? You didn't get any pleasure from that experience and you saw how committed you really are to this guy. Learn from it, so you don't cause yourself more pain, but don't be too hard on yourself. I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?
Dancing isn't cheating.
**** no. if your not together. if you were. still, it isnt unless you kissed him or something.
No it's not cheating because 1) It was really just dancing and 2) and you huys really aren't dating.
no. your not in a relationship with ur friend so you couldn't have cheated on him. But I think ye need to sit down and talk bout ye'r feelings to be honest. Otherwise you'll never enjoy yerselves.
Perhaps dancing wasn't cheating, but the grinding certainly was.
she IS a ho...fo sho
No. You are fifteen for god's sake and like you said you are not even officially going out.
If he finds out and gets angry tell him to get a life. He would have done the same thing if not worse.
No - You Hadnt Even Touched Lips With Any Of The Other Guys.
But Really Thats A Little Mean On Your Boyfriend Aint It =( x
Dancing, flirting, looking at eye candy is NOT cheating.
when it gets to the point where you begin considering spending more time with those other guys or physically cheating then it becomes a problem. Remember: A sin of the mind is a sin in the heart.
You feel partially committed to this guy, but nothing is official which would explain your feelings of guilt.
Also, you are young. It is nice to practice monogamy whatever age you are, but if you don't feel ready to comit yourself that is ok. You have a lot of years ahead of you. :)
Just be upfront about your feelings.
No, unless there's verbal agreement anything's game.
no your 15 your not married to this guy just going out and having funn is not a bad thing to do..
its when its get further is when you need to watch out
na i think your a good girl, you cant really help it if you like someone else
Right.
Well you are just too cute. =L
It's obvious you feel EXTREMELY bad about this.
But technically, you aren't bf and gf so technically that wasn't cheating.
Even if you were I wouldn't say it was cheating.
It was dancing.
Fact.
You didn't kiss these guys right?
You were just having a good time,
that's not a sin.
Don't beat yourself up about it too much and if you do feel really really bad, just tell him in a casual way you danced with so many guys..
Then remind him you ';freaking love'; him.
Good luck!!
i dont think so cuz you are not technicallity with him.besides even if you have a bf and you dance w/ other boys doesnt mean that you are cheating.but it depends on HOW you dance.
Not this time- but now that you know how it makes you feel - don't dance with other guys like that and make your realtionship with the one you ';freaking love'; official!
dancing isn't cheating. especially if you're outta town. So long as you don't kiss any of them or anything else. But seeing as how this dude you might have ';cheated'; on isn't even your ';official bf';, it definitely isn't cheating. In fact at the stage of your relationship...it is impossible to cheat because neither one of you have made it official. Especially if in person he acts like he doesnt care about you.. what a jerk!
Not at all-you even said it yourself ';but we aren't officially bf/gf';
It was just simple fun. Nothing to be ashamed of.
I wish you two the best of luck as well (:
No i don;t think its cheating. if it went as far as kissing than that is tripping the line and falling from a large hill where no ones can hear you.
Emotional cheating maybe. You did say you didn't feel anything for those guys, but then why not just ignore them? Dancing isn't a crime tho.
It is not a big deal, but you should feel bad. Just don't flirt with other boys if you are committed to this one. The biggest downfall of our digital age is the amount of flirting going on between non-single people behind closed doors so if you can avoid being one of those people someday you should. Good luck.
its not cheating dont even trip on this and your not bf gf yet so take it easy and chill out but i cant tell what it DOES mean and say about you tho it means your a good girl and not a city slut like most people out there your gonna be a good wife and caring mother someday so chill the hell out and relax and talk to him and ask where this going and find away to make it work if thats what you both want
no hunni its not ur so young sweet heart if it is not afficial then u are doing nothing wrong having a sexy dance with some other boi is fine and if u like this boi why not make it affical as the way u explained it is that u really like him and he feels the same way p.s cheating is any thing from a kiss to sex hope this helps xxxxx
If you aren't dating him, then it cannot be cheating. It can be messed up to lead people along, and if you really like this guy stop screwing around (at least it made you feel bad so there is hope). If grinding on strangers makes you feel like you betrayed someone you like, stop doing it. Try things with the guy you like.
Plus guys can seem cocky if they are really shy because they seem stuck up if the 'ignore' you.
its only cheating if you kiss, take off clothes, or have sex. dancing with some guy you don't know or care about and will never see again doesn't matter. if you feel bad tell the guy you like what happened. if you keep secrets from him you'll feel worse and push him away. nothing kills relationships (friendships or b/f g/f relationships) faster than secrets and lies. you never know, he might have done something like that too and be feeling bad, if you tell him first he might be more willing to open to you even more.
well not really dancing is just for fun if it was like a school dance and you did it in front of him then yeah but nooo dont stress
This guy stalks me and wont leave me alone?! IM SCARED?
Hello readers,,
I am 13 , and I have a major problem. I have heard of a lot of stalking going on and i didnt realize it was that serious or scary until its happening. And it is happening to me RIGHT NOW.
I love DDR (dance dance revolution) and there was this guy i met a couple of days ago. The first time i met him we just said hi and then the second time (i am always with a friend) i met him AGAIN and he came over and started chatting with me (my friend was beside me) then he asked for my number or email address, which i didnt give him. So he gave me his phone number and email address in a piece of paper. I said maybe ill see you around. But by ';around'; i didnt mean it, i meant ';never';.
Turns out, that the next time i went, he was there, just standing and waiting, not dancing on the ddr or anything. When i came over with 3 of my friends, he started greeting me and getting close to me. When i went somewhere, for example to get a drink, he followed me which really creeped me out (theres a store right next to ddr). My friends are really worried and one of my friends was talking to him and she asked him how old he is and he said 17 and she told him he is way too old for me and he should stay away from me and not be anything except friends. He told my friend that he understood and everything. After 2 mins we had to go and he pulled me over to talk to me in ';private'; and he shooshed my friends away. Then he told me some things that i DID NOT want to hear like i couldnt stop think about you and blah blah blah. I was so scared that i looked over to my friend for help. She, of course, helped me and i got over the situation. I was so so so so scared.
After that, today, i went to ddr (im a ddr freak) he was there. AGAIN. I started to get really freaked out. I danced my songs, and tried to ignore him but then he interrupted and asked me if he can take any PICS of me. I was like....ok?? (WHICH I REGRET SO MUCH) and he took pics of me while i was dancing. Then after he told me to send him a email so he can send me the pics. I was so creeped out, and i was scared. That time i realized i shouldnt have let him take pics of me. Plus, What the hell was he doing with a camera when he's at ddr anyways?! Did he know that i was coming or something? Everytime (almost everyday) i go to ddr, he is there, just waiting for me. Im so scared.
I dont like him that way at all, at first i liked him as a friend but now hes so creepy that i dont even want him as a friend anymore. My friend told her dad and her dad offered to tell him to **** off, and we're planning to let him do that next time. And i've told my dad, he told me to ignore him, but if it gets serious he offered to talk to him and let him leave me alone. But what im scared of is, after they've talked to him, what if he comes back to me and bugs me again! and i have no adult to back me up! WHAT IF HE KIDNAPS ME..Oh God..my friends told me that he wants something. Like he wants to rape me or something. Help me what the hell am i suppose to do to let him LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!!!
help me please...i dont like him that way at all..This guy stalks me and wont leave me alone?! IM SCARED?
If I were you, I wouldn't do to DDR anymore.
Next time you do, Have your friend's dad with you
in a car or something watching yalls every move to
make sure he doen't hurt you.
It sounds to me that he IS stalking you and
I wouldn't go to that place anymore.
Have your friend's dad come into the place
with yall and watch yall.
Then if he really starts to scare that crap
out of you have the dad tell him to back off.
Good Luck.This guy stalks me and wont leave me alone?! IM SCARED?
Tell your parents - this young man needs a firm talking to by the police!
Take some karate lessons, and call the police asap.
Well I'm glad you told your Dad,about it you have every reason to be scared. From now on if you go anywhere,make sure someone is with you. Have your parents keep a close eye on you as well. Ask your parents to let you take self-defense lessons,like karate or kick-boxing. Also have them get you some pepper-spray and teach you how too use it properly. Always be aware of your surroundings when your out and about. Don't talk to strangers on line either,they will tell you anything you want too hear,just too get what they want from you. And tell your friends too do the same.If this continues,have your parents contact the police and give them a good description of this young man that is doing this too you,right away. Just to be extra safe,be sure too keep your doors locked and secured at all times,along with your windows,if your parents don't have good security lighting have them put some up in and around the outside of your home. Have your parents get you a good guard dog,unless you already have one,have it trained to protect you,but also have it trained too attack on command. Good Luck And God Bless You,I Hope I Was Some Help Too You.
if you're really afraid of him you need to stay away from anywhere he may be at. if he realizes you're likely to show up there, then he's going to be there as well. it's good that you've informed adults about this situation because they need to be aware.
if you insist on going to ddr than you need to inform an adult there about this situation. hopefully after your friends dad talks to him he'll back off. you can also tell him you have a boy friend and you're not interested in him. if he insist on being your friend tell him your boyfriend is the jealous type and he won't approve of your having a friendship with him.
if this guy persist on bugging you you need to begin keeping a log of each time he tries contacting you once he been told to leave you alone. document the date, time, and incident of each contact. you can also have your friends write statements as well. if none of these tactics work then you may need to contact the police. be aware of your surroundings and if you must get a whistle, pepper spray and anything else to keep yourself safe. always stay in the company of others and don't allow him to take anymore pictures of you with your permission.
be care and take care of yourself
Whoa dude that's so scary........
I somewhat know how you feel. I'm 13 as well and like 3 times when I was walking home from school these 30 year old guys would pull over and just stare at me. The first time I saw them was when I was walking home by myself and they pulled me over and asked me if I wanted a ride and I said no but then they just stayed there until some others came by and then they drove off. About a month later I saw that same exact car with the same person in it and he slowed down when he drove passed me and just stared at me. It was so scary. Then he did that once again but I haven't seen him again because when I walk, I usually have a friend now.
But back on subject, don't go to ddr unless you're parents are with you the whole time. Because it sounds like he's trying to find you by yourself and he seriously might kidnap you and rape you. But hopefully not. Make sure that you have friends or someone else with you at all times and you're cell phone if you have one. And if you are going to ddr, go at a different time then what you usually do and if the freak comes again, tell him you'll call the cops and if he still shows up, actually call them.
Man that's so scary and make sure to be safe.
When you go to this place to dance, there aren't any adults? I can't imagine, because even here, where there is a place for kids to skateboard and ride their bikes, there are adults present, just in case someone were to get hurt.
But, if this is just a thing you do, that isn't chaperoned, you might want to go some other place, or quit going there for awhile, so this guy gives up, and leaves.
I understand you love to dance, so did I, at your age! It just isn't worth the risk, though, is it?
I am 13 , and I have a major problem. I have heard of a lot of stalking going on and i didnt realize it was that serious or scary until its happening. And it is happening to me RIGHT NOW.
I love DDR (dance dance revolution) and there was this guy i met a couple of days ago. The first time i met him we just said hi and then the second time (i am always with a friend) i met him AGAIN and he came over and started chatting with me (my friend was beside me) then he asked for my number or email address, which i didnt give him. So he gave me his phone number and email address in a piece of paper. I said maybe ill see you around. But by ';around'; i didnt mean it, i meant ';never';.
Turns out, that the next time i went, he was there, just standing and waiting, not dancing on the ddr or anything. When i came over with 3 of my friends, he started greeting me and getting close to me. When i went somewhere, for example to get a drink, he followed me which really creeped me out (theres a store right next to ddr). My friends are really worried and one of my friends was talking to him and she asked him how old he is and he said 17 and she told him he is way too old for me and he should stay away from me and not be anything except friends. He told my friend that he understood and everything. After 2 mins we had to go and he pulled me over to talk to me in ';private'; and he shooshed my friends away. Then he told me some things that i DID NOT want to hear like i couldnt stop think about you and blah blah blah. I was so scared that i looked over to my friend for help. She, of course, helped me and i got over the situation. I was so so so so scared.
After that, today, i went to ddr (im a ddr freak) he was there. AGAIN. I started to get really freaked out. I danced my songs, and tried to ignore him but then he interrupted and asked me if he can take any PICS of me. I was like....ok?? (WHICH I REGRET SO MUCH) and he took pics of me while i was dancing. Then after he told me to send him a email so he can send me the pics. I was so creeped out, and i was scared. That time i realized i shouldnt have let him take pics of me. Plus, What the hell was he doing with a camera when he's at ddr anyways?! Did he know that i was coming or something? Everytime (almost everyday) i go to ddr, he is there, just waiting for me. Im so scared.
I dont like him that way at all, at first i liked him as a friend but now hes so creepy that i dont even want him as a friend anymore. My friend told her dad and her dad offered to tell him to **** off, and we're planning to let him do that next time. And i've told my dad, he told me to ignore him, but if it gets serious he offered to talk to him and let him leave me alone. But what im scared of is, after they've talked to him, what if he comes back to me and bugs me again! and i have no adult to back me up! WHAT IF HE KIDNAPS ME..Oh God..my friends told me that he wants something. Like he wants to rape me or something. Help me what the hell am i suppose to do to let him LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!!!
help me please...i dont like him that way at all..This guy stalks me and wont leave me alone?! IM SCARED?
If I were you, I wouldn't do to DDR anymore.
Next time you do, Have your friend's dad with you
in a car or something watching yalls every move to
make sure he doen't hurt you.
It sounds to me that he IS stalking you and
I wouldn't go to that place anymore.
Have your friend's dad come into the place
with yall and watch yall.
Then if he really starts to scare that crap
out of you have the dad tell him to back off.
Good Luck.This guy stalks me and wont leave me alone?! IM SCARED?
Tell your parents - this young man needs a firm talking to by the police!
Take some karate lessons, and call the police asap.
Well I'm glad you told your Dad,about it you have every reason to be scared. From now on if you go anywhere,make sure someone is with you. Have your parents keep a close eye on you as well. Ask your parents to let you take self-defense lessons,like karate or kick-boxing. Also have them get you some pepper-spray and teach you how too use it properly. Always be aware of your surroundings when your out and about. Don't talk to strangers on line either,they will tell you anything you want too hear,just too get what they want from you. And tell your friends too do the same.If this continues,have your parents contact the police and give them a good description of this young man that is doing this too you,right away. Just to be extra safe,be sure too keep your doors locked and secured at all times,along with your windows,if your parents don't have good security lighting have them put some up in and around the outside of your home. Have your parents get you a good guard dog,unless you already have one,have it trained to protect you,but also have it trained too attack on command. Good Luck And God Bless You,I Hope I Was Some Help Too You.
if you're really afraid of him you need to stay away from anywhere he may be at. if he realizes you're likely to show up there, then he's going to be there as well. it's good that you've informed adults about this situation because they need to be aware.
if you insist on going to ddr than you need to inform an adult there about this situation. hopefully after your friends dad talks to him he'll back off. you can also tell him you have a boy friend and you're not interested in him. if he insist on being your friend tell him your boyfriend is the jealous type and he won't approve of your having a friendship with him.
if this guy persist on bugging you you need to begin keeping a log of each time he tries contacting you once he been told to leave you alone. document the date, time, and incident of each contact. you can also have your friends write statements as well. if none of these tactics work then you may need to contact the police. be aware of your surroundings and if you must get a whistle, pepper spray and anything else to keep yourself safe. always stay in the company of others and don't allow him to take anymore pictures of you with your permission.
be care and take care of yourself
Whoa dude that's so scary........
I somewhat know how you feel. I'm 13 as well and like 3 times when I was walking home from school these 30 year old guys would pull over and just stare at me. The first time I saw them was when I was walking home by myself and they pulled me over and asked me if I wanted a ride and I said no but then they just stayed there until some others came by and then they drove off. About a month later I saw that same exact car with the same person in it and he slowed down when he drove passed me and just stared at me. It was so scary. Then he did that once again but I haven't seen him again because when I walk, I usually have a friend now.
But back on subject, don't go to ddr unless you're parents are with you the whole time. Because it sounds like he's trying to find you by yourself and he seriously might kidnap you and rape you. But hopefully not. Make sure that you have friends or someone else with you at all times and you're cell phone if you have one. And if you are going to ddr, go at a different time then what you usually do and if the freak comes again, tell him you'll call the cops and if he still shows up, actually call them.
Man that's so scary and make sure to be safe.
When you go to this place to dance, there aren't any adults? I can't imagine, because even here, where there is a place for kids to skateboard and ride their bikes, there are adults present, just in case someone were to get hurt.
But, if this is just a thing you do, that isn't chaperoned, you might want to go some other place, or quit going there for awhile, so this guy gives up, and leaves.
I understand you love to dance, so did I, at your age! It just isn't worth the risk, though, is it?
He already has a date to the dance?
i really, really like this guy, and i asked him to go to the Sadie Hawkins dance with me today.
i just asked him straight out if he was going and he said some girl asked him yesterday,
the day i was absent!
i asked him what her name was but he said he couldn't tell me and that he couldn't not go with her because it wouldn't be fair,
and that i just asked him a day too late.
i freaked out and when his guy friend came and talked to me,
i confided in him and told him i asked my crush to the dance and that he couldn't go because he had someone else.
i don't know what got over me,
but i decided to ask my crush's guy friend to the dance! (he's my friend too.)
after class, i heard my crush and his friend talking about me,
and my crush saying how i gave him this picture of me from kindergarden and stuff (true, and long story...) they even used ';secret'; (but obvious) code names for me.
what do i do now?
should i still talk to my crush like nothing is wrong?
he seemed to not have known i was gonna ask him.
do you think my crush knows that i like him?
what do i do about my friend?
if he says he can go, do i go with him anyways, though i like my crush?
HELP!!!He already has a date to the dance?
You make it like going to this dance is a sure start of a relationship. It may not be so.
Be frank, and honest. Just ask :
Would it offend you if I considered you as more than just a friend (or classmate)? Do you know how much I like you?
I cannot understand in this age of communications why so many people have such great difficulty
just speaking to one another.
i just asked him straight out if he was going and he said some girl asked him yesterday,
the day i was absent!
i asked him what her name was but he said he couldn't tell me and that he couldn't not go with her because it wouldn't be fair,
and that i just asked him a day too late.
i freaked out and when his guy friend came and talked to me,
i confided in him and told him i asked my crush to the dance and that he couldn't go because he had someone else.
i don't know what got over me,
but i decided to ask my crush's guy friend to the dance! (he's my friend too.)
after class, i heard my crush and his friend talking about me,
and my crush saying how i gave him this picture of me from kindergarden and stuff (true, and long story...) they even used ';secret'; (but obvious) code names for me.
what do i do now?
should i still talk to my crush like nothing is wrong?
he seemed to not have known i was gonna ask him.
do you think my crush knows that i like him?
what do i do about my friend?
if he says he can go, do i go with him anyways, though i like my crush?
HELP!!!He already has a date to the dance?
You make it like going to this dance is a sure start of a relationship. It may not be so.
Be frank, and honest. Just ask :
Would it offend you if I considered you as more than just a friend (or classmate)? Do you know how much I like you?
I cannot understand in this age of communications why so many people have such great difficulty
just speaking to one another.
Thursday, 28 October 2010
How can I be comfortable around guys?
I'm fine with flirting -- in fact I'm really good at it. But as soon as it turns out a guy likes me I freak out. Things get awkward. I've never said yes to a guy asking me out or to a dance, just because I'm terrified of the idea. I'm not sure why. I don't want to hurt the guy, but I'm so scared. I think I really do want to start serious dating. Please help?How can I be comfortable around guys?
you may be afraid of commitment, and enjoy the chase more than the actual catch.....
or maybe the right guy just hasnt asked you out yet.
have you ever trued just saying yes??? or possibly go on group dates if you are afraid of having awkwardness btw you and your date.
once you are on the date, think of it as though it isnt a date, but that you are just hanging out like friends. dont try to be to proper or polite, or you may freak him out and make him nervousHow can I be comfortable around guys?
pressure is on him, he has to impress you, don't worry about it leave the worrying to him
take your clothes off
Take a deep breath, smile and accept the invitation!
To me it comes naturally i practically grew up with guys around. But there are certain moments when i get butterflies and i know that that guy is worth my while. I think you are scared of not working out, dont let that scare you, it might blossom into something more. What you do is not freak out, say yes to the guy and take it from there.
you may be afraid of commitment, and enjoy the chase more than the actual catch.....
or maybe the right guy just hasnt asked you out yet.
have you ever trued just saying yes??? or possibly go on group dates if you are afraid of having awkwardness btw you and your date.
once you are on the date, think of it as though it isnt a date, but that you are just hanging out like friends. dont try to be to proper or polite, or you may freak him out and make him nervousHow can I be comfortable around guys?
pressure is on him, he has to impress you, don't worry about it leave the worrying to him
take your clothes off
Take a deep breath, smile and accept the invitation!
To me it comes naturally i practically grew up with guys around. But there are certain moments when i get butterflies and i know that that guy is worth my while. I think you are scared of not working out, dont let that scare you, it might blossom into something more. What you do is not freak out, say yes to the guy and take it from there.
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