I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?

Over the weekend I went on a trip with my club to this college. There were people from other high schools there too. On saturday there was a dance and a lot of people asked me to dance. I danced with like 5 of them. And I mean like grinding. We didn't know each other because we were always from different schools. While I was dancing I felt kinda empty. There is this guy that lives kinda far from me, in my dad's state, and is obvious we like eachother a lot (he wasn't on the trip). I know I have really strong feelings for him. He stayed up till 2 in the morning on friday and saturday talking to me, even though I told him he could go since he was tired. He tells me stuff he wouldn't tell his friends thats really personal. In person he tries to act cocky/shy but on the phone i see him for how he is. I like freaking love this guy. We're like committed to eachother in that we don't date other people because we like eachother, but we aren't officially bf/gf. When the night was over I felt so guilty that I was actually shaking, like shivering really hard.





Was dancing with those guys cheating????I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?
Try to remember that what really matters is how you felt about the situation. You said you felt empty while you were dancing, and that you were so guilty you were shaking? You didn't get any pleasure from that experience and you saw how committed you really are to this guy. Learn from it, so you don't cause yourself more pain, but don't be too hard on yourself. I'm 15... is this considered cheating? I feel really awful...?
Dancing isn't cheating.
**** no. if your not together. if you were. still, it isnt unless you kissed him or something.
No it's not cheating because 1) It was really just dancing and 2) and you huys really aren't dating.
no. your not in a relationship with ur friend so you couldn't have cheated on him. But I think ye need to sit down and talk bout ye'r feelings to be honest. Otherwise you'll never enjoy yerselves.
Perhaps dancing wasn't cheating, but the grinding certainly was.
she IS a ho...fo sho
No. You are fifteen for god's sake and like you said you are not even officially going out.





If he finds out and gets angry tell him to get a life. He would have done the same thing if not worse.
No - You Hadnt Even Touched Lips With Any Of The Other Guys.





But Really Thats A Little Mean On Your Boyfriend Aint It =( x
Dancing, flirting, looking at eye candy is NOT cheating.





when it gets to the point where you begin considering spending more time with those other guys or physically cheating then it becomes a problem. Remember: A sin of the mind is a sin in the heart.





You feel partially committed to this guy, but nothing is official which would explain your feelings of guilt.





Also, you are young. It is nice to practice monogamy whatever age you are, but if you don't feel ready to comit yourself that is ok. You have a lot of years ahead of you. :)





Just be upfront about your feelings.
No, unless there's verbal agreement anything's game.
no your 15 your not married to this guy just going out and having funn is not a bad thing to do..


its when its get further is when you need to watch out
na i think your a good girl, you cant really help it if you like someone else
Right.


Well you are just too cute. =L





It's obvious you feel EXTREMELY bad about this.


But technically, you aren't bf and gf so technically that wasn't cheating.


Even if you were I wouldn't say it was cheating.


It was dancing.


Fact.


You didn't kiss these guys right?


You were just having a good time,


that's not a sin.








Don't beat yourself up about it too much and if you do feel really really bad, just tell him in a casual way you danced with so many guys..


Then remind him you ';freaking love'; him.








Good luck!!



i dont think so cuz you are not technicallity with him.besides even if you have a bf and you dance w/ other boys doesnt mean that you are cheating.but it depends on HOW you dance.
Not this time- but now that you know how it makes you feel - don't dance with other guys like that and make your realtionship with the one you ';freaking love'; official!
dancing isn't cheating. especially if you're outta town. So long as you don't kiss any of them or anything else. But seeing as how this dude you might have ';cheated'; on isn't even your ';official bf';, it definitely isn't cheating. In fact at the stage of your relationship...it is impossible to cheat because neither one of you have made it official. Especially if in person he acts like he doesnt care about you.. what a jerk!
Not at all-you even said it yourself ';but we aren't officially bf/gf';


It was just simple fun. Nothing to be ashamed of.





I wish you two the best of luck as well (:
No i don;t think its cheating. if it went as far as kissing than that is tripping the line and falling from a large hill where no ones can hear you.















Emotional cheating maybe. You did say you didn't feel anything for those guys, but then why not just ignore them? Dancing isn't a crime tho.





It is not a big deal, but you should feel bad. Just don't flirt with other boys if you are committed to this one. The biggest downfall of our digital age is the amount of flirting going on between non-single people behind closed doors so if you can avoid being one of those people someday you should. Good luck.
its not cheating dont even trip on this and your not bf gf yet so take it easy and chill out but i cant tell what it DOES mean and say about you tho it means your a good girl and not a city slut like most people out there your gonna be a good wife and caring mother someday so chill the hell out and relax and talk to him and ask where this going and find away to make it work if thats what you both want
no hunni its not ur so young sweet heart if it is not afficial then u are doing nothing wrong having a sexy dance with some other boi is fine and if u like this boi why not make it affical as the way u explained it is that u really like him and he feels the same way p.s cheating is any thing from a kiss to sex hope this helps xxxxx
If you aren't dating him, then it cannot be cheating. It can be messed up to lead people along, and if you really like this guy stop screwing around (at least it made you feel bad so there is hope). If grinding on strangers makes you feel like you betrayed someone you like, stop doing it. Try things with the guy you like.





Plus guys can seem cocky if they are really shy because they seem stuck up if the 'ignore' you.
its only cheating if you kiss, take off clothes, or have sex. dancing with some guy you don't know or care about and will never see again doesn't matter. if you feel bad tell the guy you like what happened. if you keep secrets from him you'll feel worse and push him away. nothing kills relationships (friendships or b/f g/f relationships) faster than secrets and lies. you never know, he might have done something like that too and be feeling bad, if you tell him first he might be more willing to open to you even more.
well not really dancing is just for fun if it was like a school dance and you did it in front of him then yeah but nooo dont stress