I need Relationship Advice?

To Whomever offers a guiding hand:

I began dating what was to become the love of my life on May 7th, 2008. So far we've been going strong through college (I'm a freshman in College and she's a Senior in High School). Our relationship has lasted a total of 19months this far, and we've gone through so many fights and emotions that I've come to the realization that love truly is not for fools. Love is full of pain, and emotion, and is quite a burden. Love is for the truest of the wise. But ultimately, I believe that all of the sacrifice I am making is worth it to be with this person who so well understands me, cares about me, and whom is beautiful and Perfect to me in every way.

This girl, M, and I are in a long distance relationship and it's hard, and the future is not visible.

I go to a college in Florida (the U) and she's back at home in Ohio, We're truly hoping that next year she chooses the U (she can easily go to better places), but, lately, our friends are complaining that we put too much pressure on one another at inconvenient times:

For example: I'm sitting in the dining hall, just me and a group of girls - we are purely friends to talk about school matters and the like - and M calls and understands that I'm busy eating, but, perhaps out of suspected jealousy, asks me whom I'm with. Of course I respond whom I'm with, but then she will become this monster in a sense that she's upset I can't give her my attention at that moment in time and that I have to LEAVE the building in order to calm her down. It seems odd that she feels that way if she trusts me and loves me.

Yet, just today she unexpectedly went hanging out with her best guy friend, and afterwards, he came over to finish talking with her and watch blades of glory, Now I'm the one who is jealous. This guy is my best friend as well, so I completely trust the two, but in time M reveals that she had been replacing me with him, unintentionally, because they both had a sort of gap in their lives: M didn't have me, Guy Best friend never had a girlfriend. I can understand that. But after I allowed her to go to a formal dance with guy best friend, pictures of one another on each others backs giving piggyback rides truly upset me with jealousy that they're so close while i'm here. I felt like I was replaced and I communicated with her about this and she reconfirmed how much she loved me and that nothing was going on between the two. The Guy Best friend is somewhat attractive, I can admit, but I was reconfirmed that M cared for me too much to give that up. Today, however, when he went back to her house for the half an hour, I guess I freaked because M forgot to mention this additional hanging out when I was waiting to skype with her and didn't mention exactly what time she should be back. What ultimately ended up happening was me being over jealous and not being satisfied with her nonresponsive attitude towards my feelings.

I guess what Im getting at is that, a long distance love should not hinder your relationships locally, yet I feel M and my jealousy are unavoidable. Is mine more justified if she's spending one on one time with the guy best friend? But also, is her jealousy more justified since she doesn't know these girls I'm friends with? They really are kind friends and our group is not the party type--more of the find fun in spending time together.

Also, I feel we end up pushing each other away by communicating these feelings, but I don't want to be seen like her mother. Yet, I;m worried so I can't help it. I also don't want to react negatively in jealousy to the point that she will no longer tell me what she's doing.

I'm coming home in just a week and I know everything will be resolved, but I don't want it to be a temporary resolution.

I want to make this a change in our character or agenda that would resolve the conflict and make the test of time pass more smoothly with less demands and jealousy, and better understanding and trust.

How can I improve this relationship and make her feel like I love her even though I can't communicate with her at that instant? How do I choose the right words to say, what ground rules should there be? Should we both just be ignorant of what the other is doing? Is it worth waiting when we're so young and the future is unclear? What do we do of the fear that one of us may cheat, emotionally, with a friend or another? I truly love this girl, but is there even a possibility of that changing unless we begin fighting with one another constantly?

Please offer your advice from experience or observation,





I truly appreciate this,

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my answer would be if your fighting a lot about this issue them maybe she is not the right girl for you and maybe your jealous because your afraid that she or you will cheat the best way i would handle it is to tell her how you feel then hope that she understands what you feel if she does then its time to get out of it if she relates that she is missing you and replaces you with him them something aint right i would be loving and kind to a point if that was me but i would set ground rules for the guy that he doesnt go out with other girls if he truely care sand love me he wouldnt so set ground rules and tell her that you think this is a good way of showing her that you love her and dont go out with other girls maybe a long distance is for either of you women need to be held and loved to know a person cares so take your time and dont get angry it dont help if your angryI need Relationship Advice?
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Is there any real advice about jealousy? It boils down to your ability to control yourself. What does jealously imply? Insecurity? Loneliness? Or is it your awareness of yourself finding other people attractive and wondering if your girlfriend is experiencing the same ? (doubt ?) The answers you seek are in you. In your heart %26amp; mind. Try to control your emotions . Breathe. Let go of the doubt. Let go of the negative emotions. Focus on being polite %26amp; considerate. We only have one life. Keep it a quality life. Enjoy the moment. When you see her, let her see your love for her in your eyes, in your body language. Embrace the moment. Cherish it. Embrace it. Let all the negativity fade. If it is real love, nothing else matters , but, the moment. Breathe.