My friend abstinent, sorta? should i say anything?

(we're 15) my friend says she's religious and isn't going to have sex till marriage and got a ring to show it i guess, but she always talks how hot guys are and would want to have group sex with nick,joe, kevin (jonas), and the guys from twilight, she'll also freak dance at dances, and the other night she suggested we play spin the bottle and strip poker(2 guys 3 girls) which we did, also she lets 2 of her guy friends touch her boobs, a gay one and another (not gay), do you see something wrong with this? or is it just me because i never said i'm gunna be abstinent but am shy and don't like those kinds of things



it may not be sex but isn't abstinence saving yourself for one person and doing that is kind of not,

she'd probably get mad at me if i say anything to her but i think its hypocritical and she should be honest to herself

but should i say anything to her or just leave it alone? what do you think?





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My friend abstinent, sorta? should i say anything?
According to Yale and Columbia Universities 88% of True Love Waits pledges did it anyway. I think your friend should still wait a little bit, but if you want her to have an alternative view from the Bible about premarital sex send her to the website below. There is no need for Christians to wait until marriage, that's just stuff the preachers have to say to keep their jobs.My friend abstinent, sorta? should i say anything?
To me, your friend sounds very hypocritical. While she may be following the idea of abstinent by the letter, she is doing why this ';rule'; exists in the first place by doing everything else short of having sex.



With that said, that is her body and her life. You need to recognize that and stay away from imposing your idea on what she should or shouldn't do.
Just leave it. Let her do whatever she wants.

It's her life and her religion and she'll go as far as she can.

Doing all those things has no affect on the virginity side of things.

But yeah, don't worry to much.

just the choice in her hands.

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I understand your concern and you are 100 percent justified.. I would just sit her down and talk to her about it. I know that you do not want to jeopardize your friendship, but lets be honest. The behavior she is demonstrating will lead up to actually doing these thing and with your obvious morals, is this someone that you really want to be around? People like that typically hang out with others like that.. You will likely be put into very awkward situations by her and some others that she may befriend later if it progresses
My friends answer:mmmmkay well just because shes doing that doesnt mean shes not being abstinent. Its her morals and what she feels is right and ';too far';. If she has enough self control to not let those things lead to sex- go her. i say dont confront her about it. you could ask like what she thinks is too far and what isnt but dont think that shes making a wrong choice or lying if she says she abstinent.



My answer: at this age, its understandable to talk and be curious about sex, i know i am. but if her only boundaries are not having sex, let her be. you can ask her but dont accuse her of not being abstinent and lying to God and her parents.