Thursday 28 October 2010

Advise about dancing w/ guys please?

OK. so i know this is super LAME. but i've only danced with a guy twice. first time at a school dance.. and it went fine. the question isint about the 1st time i danced with a guy.

SO...

the second for like a song or two at a night club.. and it was awkward.

by dancing i mean.. freaking. but not hot and heavy freaking, just PG (PG13?) freaking. casual stuff? as in guy behind girl and swaying.. no grinding.



ANYWAY. for the most part. it was OK. like we were in sync and it worked. but once in a while out of no where, we just werent. and in my head im like ';crap, wth?'; and i'd quickly try to figure out what his rhythm is again.



i dont know if its cuz he sucked at dancing, or i sucked at dancing, or what. i didnt know whether i should back up a little more into him so i could feel the rhythm he was going at a little better. or if he sucked at leading or i was just really incompetent. (but the first time [w/diff guy mind you..] was just fine...)



SO. please PLEASE help me. guidance? tips?

I just dont want to find myself in a position where im gonna dance with a guy and be totally clueless. is it ok to be assuming that its always gonna be freaking? etc. I'LL TAKE ANYTHING (even comments about how disgustingly stupid i am.. just please give advise so i can fix it :P)Advise about dancing w/ guys please?
freaking?! hmmm... i guess this is a term for getting 'jiggy' on the dancefloor.



anyway, i'd say stop worrying. sounds like the guy was a bit lame or a bit afraid to impose some leadership on the situation.



generally in dance, the guy takes the lead. the girl follows but (if she's enjoying it) she'll introduce a couple of flirty moves or even tease the guy by moving away a bit to see if he 'chases her' (sort of playing hard to get).



flirty moves can range from putting your hands in your hair and moving down to the ground and back up etc. or even pressing your bum into him to encourage 'freaking' etc.



just make sure you know what you're getting into though - some guys might get a bit over-excited.



but yes, keep doing what you're doing and you should meet a competent guy on the dancefloor soon enough!Advise about dancing w/ guys please?
If you're looking for something with flair then I suggest taking up ballroom. Ballroom is more than Waltz (though I love waltz too). The Latin dances can def. find their way to the club - ChaCha, Rhumba, Salsa, Samba. I'm always big on ballroom because it's artsy, a ton of fun and few people take the time to learn (they'd prefer poor imitations like bumping and grinding or something - seriously - that's not dance - it's bumping and grinding.) But learn some good ballroom and go at it. You won't feel incompetent then. I absolutely love it and people love watching if they can't do it themselves.



And yes - always let the guy lead. It's the nature of dance, the nature of life.



Whatever you do - don't give up on dance. It's too amazing to do that :) You just have to find your style (ballroom or not. lol - just remember that bumping/grinding/freaking isn't dance - it's what it's called. lol)

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