Thursday 28 October 2010

Dancing with other guys....im in a relationship?

ive been with my bf for 3 years. im 22 and have recently been going out to the clubs with 3 of my friends that i dont ever go out with, maybe like 8 times since the summer.i always tell him when im going out bcause i dont like to keep things from him. most of the time we dance with each other but there have been a few times where a guy will grab u and dance or just slip in when ur dancing with ur other gfs and i have no clue wat to do but stay, or stay for a bit and then just say ur leaving to get a drink and just not come back. i dont freak dance on anyone cuz to me thats gross and i wouldnt want him to do it so i dont. i recently told him that i have danced w other guys (nothing dirty) and he broke up with me. he thinks i kissed them and tried talkin to them or somthing. he is really upset and called me really bad words and even told me that he woulndt care if i died.

i dont know how to let him know that i didnt do anything with them. he says i lied but i just didnt want him to get crazy upset. i really love him and ive told him that i wont go out anymore and ive goten rid of clubbing clothes. i dont thinnk he'll ever talk to me. i sent him an email telling him about the guys that i danced with and exactly what happened.

what should i do? will he forgive me? i love him wih all of my heart i feel like i cant breathe without him, hes my best friend. to make things worse he lives in sacramento 400 miles from me.Dancing with other guys....im in a relationship?
Well my opinion is this.



1 The distance makes it hard to trust you

2 When you love someone you dont want to hurt them no matter how bad they hurt you



I think that maybe he was looking for a reason to end your relationship as hard as it may be to take in. It sounds like he wants freedom to date others without saying its his fault you broke up because thats not enough of a reason to leave someone if you truely love someone. Besides its going to be hard to be in a relationship with someone who is far far away because you will wounder alot what the other person is doing. I think personally you should express yourself a final time and if he still dosent trust you dont bother with him. Honestly though dont hink he will forgive you. sorry %26gt;.%26lt;Dancing with other guys....im in a relationship?
dude your boyfriend is really immature. Hes probably just jealous or was just trying to find a way to break up with you? iunno. but you should be allowed to go out and have fun. just dont cheat.
wow he broke up with you because you were dancing?? if he truly loves you this wouldnt matter to him.
HEELOOO



ONLY WHO LOVES U ....FIGHTS WITH U



so relax ....he wil definitely talk to u ...



believe ur love %26amp; have faith in urself
All i gotta say is ';DONT DO TO OTHERS WHAT YOU DONT WANT DONE TO YOU'; simple as that.
Honestly, I think you should seriously find someone who is more worthy of your love and devotion.



It's hard enough to maintain a long-distance relationship. And his jealousy and insecurity makes the relationship that much harder. You did nothing wrong. In fact, your honesty and open communication should be something he appreciates. But he breaks up with you and even disrespects you. You want to spend the rest of your life with that loser?



But he is insecure for a reason...that reason is usually guilt because in the same situation, he would cheat. I would guess that he is cheating because he is a boy, not a man.



Stop crying over this chump because he is not worth your tears. Move on to someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.



One more thing, I quit going to clubs long ago because they are really pick-up spots for single people. And no one really dances anymore. They are just dry-humping. Stay away from those places unless you go with your boyfriend.
Men do insane things because they are either 1)immature or 2)insecure. He targeted this non-issue as a reason to lash out at you. He may be afraid of losing you, so he dumped you first. You shouldn't accomodate his irrational feelings, though. BUY NEW CLUB CLOTHES. Go out with the girls! If it is really an issue to YOU, find a new club to dance at. Maybe a lesbian club where guys won't bother you. It has always bothered me when I go out with my girl friends and guys send over drinks or dance with us. I don't care!!!! This guy is being nuts, and you should watch his future behavior. If you want to be with him again, tell him that you love him, you would never do anything to hurt him, but you will not tolerate this bad behavior. Otherwise, he will keep doing it and you will lose him because you will leave because you can no longer be yourself. If he loves you, and is rational, he wouldn't act this way. And LOVE is the easy part, but COMMITMENT is a B*TCH. You will learn to appreciate the man that commits, not the one that says he loves you. Commitment comes with love, but love does not come with a commitment. And he is committing nothing to you but the looney bin.
Somebodies got real issues that need to be sorted %26amp; quickly....Its not you..Feel that 400 miles is not enough distance,need more between you..JUST FORGET about this dude,he's not worth the effort my girl..GETS his own self fixed up,then maybe,just maybe..Otherwise forget %26amp; ignore..Any forgiving to be done.Should be you forgiving,him for his childish behaviour.Not the other way around.

Best of luck with everything that you do..

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