About two years ago I met a girl at my school - and I instantly crushed on her. She was nice, pretty, and she had a small amount of friends. She was also being chased by three guys - Including me. So after being her friend for four months, I took her to formal, as friends. She liked someone else at the time in that way. I told her I understood, and we stayed friends.
We talked - but soon I started to realize that my efforts were worthless, and I was spending to much time with her, and I could see my friend kind of disappointed I wasn't paying as much attention to him. So I stopped hanging out in a group (my best friend did hang out with us, but he never seemed to interested) and he confessed he's happy I stopped hanging out with her because he thought it was in my best interest.
I told him I agreed, and I'd try not to do something like that again. Near the end of the first year (during school), I became closer to this girl again (I rode her bus at the time). I told her I wanted to hang out this summer, she agreed and wanted to as well. Then suddenly my family, who was at the time in Portugal, invited me to go along for two weeks. Of course I agreed - and off I was to Portugal. Before I left, I told her I had something I wanted to tell her when I got back. I was going to tell her I liked her.
As it happens - I stayed in Portugal to study abroad, for eight months. I talked to her over the summer through msn, and I told her I liked her. She said she knew when I had told her I had something to tell her, and she said she had wanted to hang out so bad that summer. We talked once every two weeks, but nothing serious. Then I came back to America. When I went to surprise visit them at school - She gave me a jump hug, and I hung out with my best friend and her.
I enrolled in school again, and I hung out with my best friend, deciding that I didn't want to make the same mistake twice. She came looking for me sometimes at lunch - and ended up taking me to a school dance (her invitation). We had some good slow dances, and she freaked danced a lot. She also flirted heavily - but apparently she had this ';boyfriend in Idaho';. I learned later it was a cover - a way for her to claim she wasn't single.
So after that night - because I felt a bit stabbed that she would flirt with me and then tell me we shouldn't slow dance, I said fine. I simply stopped making ANY effort to speak to her. If she spoke to me I'd say hi, but that was the extent of it. Then I got a little closer - and I'd hang out with her in the mornings at school before school began, one day she even held my hand. Then I felt like she was playing with me, and stayed away. I just had that feeling.
About two months ago, before school was over, my best friend told me, ';Nico - I've seen Molly walking arm in arm with this guy all over campus...'; he was sure they were together. And he was right, I saw them kiss about a week before school ended. That was that. Two days before school ended I rode her bus again - and when I asked her what was on her mind - she said she felt she made a mistake by asking her boyfriend out. I didn't give in to saying I had feelings for her.
Today, I saw my messenger was on, and I saw she was on, so I IM'ed her. She told me after a few minutes about how she had dumped her boyfriend, and we talked. I told her about how things were running pretty good for me - how girls in summer school were flirting and all. Then she asked me to call her in fifteen minutes after she ate. I'm not superman when it comes to phone conversations - but come to think of it, I'm not bad either. We talked about life, and how she just wasn't compatible with her ex, and she had to dump him because he was cheating on her.
She told me something I didn't know. She lost her best friend, and almost all her other friends. She hasn't even hung out with anyone this summer. I told her neither had I, because my friend is in Basic Training. She invited me to hang out next week Tuesday, I said sure. I pushed things farther (this is about 45 minutes into the conversation, longest I'd had with her was about 5 minutes in the past) and I asked her to the movies. She said yes with enthusiasm, and told me I would have to be ok with her cuddling. I told her of course.
Now comes the real question...I thought her voice today was the one I'd heard back on the bus, when she sounded like she liked me, and I feel as if she's liked me for a long time now. She had actually messaged me on Myspace a few weeks ago, but I don't check my Myspace anymore, since I've no close friends other than two or three - none who are in town or near the internet.
Now my question - Does she like me, and does she want a relationship with me? She's been a close friend since Portugal - I just never touched up on it. Or does she want to be friends with benefits, or whatLong, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?
How can we be sure about it when you, having first-hand experience, isn't sure yourself? It's not only long to read, but it's confusing. She is confusing.
All I can advise is, do not be quick to assume and jump to conclusions. The only thing constant is that, we all know you have feelings for her.
And while things are just as confusing, be her friend and nothing else.
Only when facts are clear and you know it in your heart that she likes you in return, then make the move.
If you're confused and unsure, wait and observe her longer.Long, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?
if u have feelings for her then express it
u could just ask her, if she wants to be ur girlfriend or friend
First of alll I laughed just at the fact you ran out of room. But anyways i would just ask her out ^^ if you are prepared for the only friends thi g then you have nothing to worry about ;)
You want the truth? She wants a shoulder to cry on. And later may be a best friend, but nothing more serious than that, may be for now she wants a relationship but you're the guy she'll use to get over that other dude. If you can be that for her, then do it. If not at least be a good friend.
I have a thing, i dont know what or how. But i understand people, who they are, how they act, what they do, they're personality really. And she sounds like a girl that cant make up her mind, she goes after 1 thing and ends up with another, she goes with the flow, and if you really like her, you should ask her out, there is no doubt in my mind that she will say yes. Hope things work out
Wow. Sounds like you had a long, difficult time with this girl.
To answer your question, yes--I do think she likes you. She seemed to like you in the first place before she got her bf. Then when she broke up with him, I think she was dropping you a hint when she told you about how she broke up with her bf and asked you to hang out immediately after (and cuddling? nice).
So anyway, you should go for it. She seems to like you a lot and I bet you would probably have a good relationship with her.
Aww so cute. Soounds liike she liike youuuu. Go for it--Theres no point in backing out. She'd probably not talk to you again. Lol. So be with her. She likes you, and YOU KNOW IT.
You just wanted some back up ;p
Well if she likes you, go for it. If she wants a relationship, go for it. If she just wants to be friends with benefits, THEN EFFING GO FOR IT MAN, COME ON!!! But seriously if you have feelings for her and she doesn't really have friends anymore, go for it(unless there is a certain reason why she doesn't have any friends). Just be prepared for a most likely bumpy ride my man. A real bumpy ride.
No comments:
Post a Comment