Sunday 21 November 2010

How do you get over someone that you havent been with in over a year?

Last year i had this huge crush on this amazing guy. He was hott and funny and sweet. just a really great guy... i went to the homecoming dance at my school and he ask me out!! i was sooo happy! sooo of course i said yes! well durin our relationship we started havin some miscommunication problems... and then after a month and half he broke up with me. i was crushed... he had his friend do it.... sooo i went on completley lost. i kept tellin my friends i was over him, and then something would happen and i started havin feelings for him again. well summer came and i dated another guy, thinkin i was over the guy that broke my heart... i wasnt. i went back to school to find out i had a class with my ex and freak out! i broke up wit my bf hoping me and my ex would get back together... now he wants my best friend and doesnt want me... he is breakin my friendship up wit her and breakin my heart... idk wat i did to make him not care about me anymore.... and even after all this i still cant get over him!!!!! soooo will you guys please help me!! he is killin me =[How do you get over someone that you havent been with in over a year?
tell him you cant get over him and that you miss him

itll be really scary to put yourself out there like that, but its better than always wishing you did

if he rejects you, then try to move on, dont talk to him or look at him

also you should tell your friend how you feel about him

if shes truly your friend, she wont go out with him

if she isnt, well, then you need a new best friend sweety

hope everything goes well! : )

Why is it that SO MANY women prefer Black Men?

* I'm NOT trying to offend ANYONE,...but this has been MY observation, and that of many people I know*





Is it REALLY the whole ';stereotype SIZE thing???';





Also,... it's not that I dislike this, or am angry,... I have a beautiful Thai girlfriend that I'm getting engaged to. I'm not complaining,.... I'm just curious,... I want to know why and what it is that causes it. Kind of like from a sociological point of view,...





I don't know,...that's why I'm asking! But EVERYWHERE I go I see LOTS of black guys with beautiful white, hispanic, asian, and even occasionally with black women.





I mean it doesn't matter where I go, its like that at my college, the mall, WHEREVER!!!





What's funny about this,... Is for what ever reason I never see it the other way around,... You almost NEVER see white guys with hot black girls, or asian guys with hot white girls, or ANY race of ANY guy with Beautiful women outside their own race, I mean sure it does happen, it happened to me! But, It is REALLY rare,... ... Except for black guys of course!!!





It seems like ALL women want them!!!





For the most part,...From all the Black women I see, they would rather be single and alone, or be a lesbian,... if they can't have black men!





They are just NOT interested in other men. I always hear them saying how its so hard to get a good black man, and they wouldn't ever date outside their race, and then complain about being single, and meanwhile there is a whole college of interested White and Hispanic guys, and they couldn't care less!





White and Hispanic women go CRAZY for black guys!!! So much so,... you'll see average black guys with chicks that look like they would be WAY WAY out of their league!!!





Asian women are SO CRAZY about them, when I was in Japan, there is a commercial where this Japanese house wife is portrayed as being totally unsatisfied with her husband, so she orders some kind of ';magical'; laundry detergent,... Then she throws her husband into the washing machine, and adds in the magic laundry detergent, and the guy comes out as an black male,... and the Japanese woman rejoices with glee, and jumps all over the guy!





AND,...There is almost an exact same commercial done in Australia,... Only with a blonde blue-eyed Australian house wife who turns her husband into a Black male. Her reaction is the same as the Japanese woman's.





AND, There is a similar commercial in Italy Doing essentially the same thing,... ONLY the Itallian version is more tame than the Japanese and Australian Version,... Curiously the Itallian Version is the only one that I can find on youtube,...Take a look!!!





http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HQQs3nl0LcY





And,...Part 2





http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0EVc7CdHzmg











And, when I went out to the clubs in Japan,... There were a lot of American military guys there also. And,... The black guys were like freakin' Rock-stars the women were all over them like they were celebrities. And the White and Hispanic guys were either posted up on the walls, sitting at the bars, or on the dance floor getting rejected by Japanese women who were busy trying to dance with one of the black guys.





So I even asked some of the Military guys that were there, as the situation there was obvious, and they said that it is EVEN worse in Germany!!!





They said German women are like SUPER REALLY REALLY CRAZY about black males. The military guys said that it was at least that bad in Australia,.... and pretty much anywhere they've been.





While I was there, in Japan, at a mall,... There was this Tall, African American, Military guy walking around, and the girls started freaking out,...screaming like he was ';The Beatles,'; and they crowded all over him going nuts! He was a nice enough guy, and he told us that it is ALWAYS like that when he leaves base and goes out into town.





Here in the United States it is the same,... there is this hospital where I volunteer at, and there is a Japanese girl who is also a volunteer, and she has straight up told me that she ONLY dates black guys!





And, if you were to walk around my college you would think that MOST of the women there have the exact same attitude as she does!!!





So WHAT is it??? What is going on here???





I've heard a few possible explanations,.... Which are,...








1. The global perception of the ';size thing'; Whether it be TRUE or not





2. Because of hip hop Black guys are just ';IN'; right now!!! They're popular





3. They are considered the ';New Bad boys'; replacing Italians, and Motorcycle tough guys





4. Some women,... say they feel Black males are generally ';more masculine';





5. Some women,... say they feel Black males are generally ';more aggressive';











Anyways,... Those were the reasons that I have heard,...








What are the real reasons, or are those it???





I mean it is happening everywhere, on such a HUGE scale, there HAS to be some reason!!!








Thoughts and Opinions ???Why is it that SO MANY women prefer Black Men?
Personally, I do not feel that black men are attractive.


But then again, this is coming from a (Dare I say young? xD I'm 13) half English-half Portuguese, though I am white, but I'm very tanned.


I prefer white or japanese/chinese/korean (Oriental?) boys. I tend to head more towards the Japanese side of men, more than anything else. Though they look korean and chinese, i prefer the language xD.


I'm not interested in black men, nor hispanic. Maybe because i look more hispanic, and i want something different compared to me?


Maybe that's you answer, maybe women prefer something different to themselves.


But then again, even though i look hispanic, i still try to look more oriental and white (Like staying out of the sun, and putting chinese looking make-up on, though it makes me look like a cat. xD), like dying my hair blonde, to look more like the kind of guys i like.


Sigh... But then again, maybe oriental boys and whites like something different and will show interest in me? Maybe i should stop trying and be hispanic.


Hope i helped,


Sexy-Hispanic-Blonde-Girl With-Chinese-Cat-Eyes!





HannahXxXxWhy is it that SO MANY women prefer Black Men?
we seem to be more attractive and have big hoods
I think you should have posted this in a blog instead, since you're not really asking a question but just trying to spam your own thoughts instead. Plus, we've answered twelve questions like this today already.
whoa that was some serious venting lol. i prefer non black guys But hey what ever floats your boat. and the '; size thing '; maybe most black guys exude alot of confidence and are more athletic ever think about that instead of the size
I'm not black and I'm doin just fine... you should focus more on gettin some tail yourself and not write novels about how you wanna have sex with blk men lol





BTW most Asian girls i know are not into black men... more so white men for sure. A lot of white sluts ';graduate'; to black guys once respectable white guys who can get their own pussy shun them. That is IME
';I don't know,...that's why I'm asking! But EVERYWHERE I go I see LOTS of black guys with beautiful white, hispanic, asian, and even occasionally with black women.';





LMAO!! who cares, you have your ';beautiful thai girlfriend.';
Maybe because they look exotic??
well excuse me ^^^ I am a white female n have dated both blk n white guys. n no that steriotype bout having big goodies is false it jus depends if ur born with that luckyness. And it just depends on the womens taste or how that guy treats her.
becuase theyre fat and rejected and no other men would take them. lol jk.
I thought the opposite is true.
They're more flamboyant than men in other races.
Um I am Hispanic and I do like black guys (lol not because of the size thing, truthfully for me its because I find them sexy, they have nice lips, outgoing, like how they dress )


but I also love my hispanics and tend to find asians cute, but my first pick proboly would be hispanic ...some of my friends are like me and some aren't, some don't like dating black guys, asian guys etc....Its just depends on each person. but overall its just the personality in the end.


I think you been paying to much attention on this certain subject that girls dating black guys in malls, college etc stick out too you the most.





i didnt knew italians where considered ';bad boys';..hmmm
im almost 13 so im young and i would like to know too.i very much prefer all other races than my own {black) but i dont know if the other races would date a black girl,im allowed to have a boyfriend,i had one and he was white,but i didnt like him that much.he said he didnt like white girls.its all so confusing on what races would date out of their race.if all the girls are getting taken by black men, start dating other races guys!and i mostly like white or asian guys.
I'm a black female and I love black men. It is true that I've never dated outside of my race but I wouldn't mind doing it. Honestly, I feel that a white guy or asian or any other race could not handle the type of personality that many african american females have. I'm not talking about ';ghetto'; attitudes.. I just think we may be a little stronger and harder to deal with sometimes. (especially when we're mad).. and honestly, my friends talk about even feeling a little insecure around men outside of our race because they may not completely understand us. A lot of our body parts may look a little different (darker lol) than what a man of a different race maybe use to and I hate to be stared at lol. Also, I like aggression. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he's every bit of ';man'; I can ask for. There is NOTHING wrong men of different races...its just us women.
Women love trying new things also its 2010 not 1910..
I don't know, i don't get it either but they could have them cuzz i don't like black men.

Why is it that MOST women prefer Black Men?

* I'm NOT trying to offend ANYONE,...but this has been MY observation, and that of many people I know*





Is it REALLY the whole ';stereotype SIZE thing???';





Also,... it's not that I dislike this, or am angry,... I have a beautiful Thai girlfriend that I'm getting engaged to. I'm not complaining,.... I'm just curious,... I want to know why and what it is that causes it. Kind of like from a sociological point of view,...





I don't know,...that's why I'm asking! But EVERYWHERE I go I see LOTS of black guys with beautiful white, hispanic, asian, and even occasionally with black women.





I mean it doesn't matter where I go, its like that at my college, the mall, WHEREVER!!!





What's funny about this,... Is for what ever reason I never see it the other way around,... You almost NEVER see white guys with hot black girls, or asian guys with hot white girls, or ANY race of ANY guy with Beautiful women outside their own race, I mean sure it does happen, it happened to me! But, It is REALLY rare,... ... Except for black guys of course!!!





It seems like ALL women want them!!!





For the most part,...From all the Black women I see, they would rather be single and alone, or be a lesbian,... if they can't have black men!





They are just NOT interested in other men. I always hear them saying how its so hard to get a good black man, and they wouldn't ever date outside their race, and then complain about being single, and meanwhile there is a whole college of interested White and Hispanic guys, and they couldn't care less!





White and Hispanic women go CRAZY for black guys!!! So much so,... you'll see average black guys with chicks that look like they would be WAY WAY out of their league!!!





Asian women are SO CRAZY about them, when I was in Japan, there is a commercial where this Japanese house wife is portrayed as being totally unsatisfied with her husband, so she orders some kind of ';magical'; laundry detergent,... Then she throws her husband into the washing machine, and adds in the magic laundry detergent, and the guy comes out as an black male,... and the Japanese woman rejoices with glee, and jumps all over the guy!





AND,...There is almost an exact same commercial done in Australia,... Only with a blonde blue-eyed Australian house wife who turns her husband into a Black male. Her reaction is the same as the Japanese woman's.





And, when I went out to the clubs in Japan,... There were a lot of American military guys there also. And,... The black guys were like freakin' Rock-stars the women were all over them like they were celebrities. And the White and Hispanic guys were either posted up on the walls, sitting at the bars, or on the dance floor getting rejected by Japanese women who were busy trying to dance with one of the black guys.





So I even asked some of the Military guys that were there, as the situation there was obvious, and they said that it is EVEN worse in Germany!!!





They said German women are like SUPER REALLY REALLY CRAZY about black males. The military guys said that it was at least that bad in Australia,.... and pretty much anywhere they've been.





While I was there, in Japan, at a mall,... There was this Tall, African American, Military guy walking around, and the girls started freaking out,...screaming like he was ';The Beatles,'; and they crowded all over him going nuts! He was a nice enough guy, and he told us that it is ALWAYS like that when he leaves base and goes out into town.





Here in the United States it is the same,... there is this hospital where I volunteer at, and there is a Japanese girl who is also a volunteer, and she has straight up told me that she ONLY dates black guys!





And, if you were to walk around my college you would think that MOST of the women there have the exact same attitude as she does!!!





So WHAT is it??? What is going on here???





I've heard a few possible explanations,.... Which are,...








1. The global perception of the ';size thing'; Whether it be TRUE or not





2. Because of hip hop Black guys are just ';IN'; right now!!! They're popular





3. They are considered the ';New Bad boys'; replacing Italians, and Motorcycle tough guys





4. Some women,... say they feel Black males are generally ';more masculine';





5. Some women,... say they feel Black males are generally ';more aggressive';











Anyways,... Those were the reasons that I have heard,...








What are the real reasons, or are those it???





I mean it is happening everywhere, on such a HUGE scale, there HAS to be some reason!!!








Thoughts and Opinions ???Why is it that MOST women prefer Black Men?
In 2005, only 7% of the 59 million marriages that were conducted that year were interracial in the US (counting ALL ethnicities, not just black-white). I would not say MOST women date black men, rather there is a large percentage of white women who do date a different race. Though it's hard to believe, back in '67, there were states who still had laws against interracial marriage. As time goes on, it is becoming less and less of a social taboo to date a mixed race, like a black-white couple.





You did point out some interesting facts on advertising. Maybe in Japan, there is much less of a percentage of black men, therefore it is almost a fantasy for a Japanese housewife to have one.





I just don't believe ';size'; constitutes a majority of the reasoning behind interracial dating/marriage.Why is it that MOST women prefer Black Men?
I think this is just a matter of you particularly focusing in on black guys.


Black guys are pretty rare to see in Japan, for example, that's why they get a lot of attention. Also, German women don't have a particular liking towards black men- please don't listen to military guys.

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Your ';understanding'; of it is just wrong and uninformed.





Most women prefer men of their own race. There are no measurable differences between women of one race over another preferring men of another race.
there are alot that don't alotta black guys i know are jerks i guess that just depends on where you live
no idea, maybe because you put way to much thought into this
Because we make the BEST fried chicken %26amp; BBQ
black men are freakin sexy. they are masculine,have better muscle definition,courageous,smooth skin,big cocks,they have deeper voices they are just 100 times better than white men,hispanic men,asian men etc etc





i am a white girl with a fetish for sexy black men.





nelly,t.i,terrence howard,tyrese gibson,denzel washington omg black men are sexy
Not true. It's just how stereotypes work. If there is one, say, German woman who is crazy about black guys you'll notice it. But you won't notice the thousand others who are not. I live in Germany and I can assure you that most German women prefer dating men of their own race.
I think you answered your own question with the things you listed. In my opinion though I think it is the masculine thing plus the large dong thing which is a myth because all black guy are not huge. While in the service overseas I saw more hung white guys than black ones. In some cases the Latin guys put everyone to shame. Blacks seem to be more dominate than whites but there is always an exception to the rule. MO
it aint a size thing, it's all about how they treat ladies, and that goes for all races. I happen to prefer Asian guys, they treat ladies wonderfully and i find many dont try to immitate the westernized male image (much like the skinny sized female image) But any man that treats me with respect is deserving of my attention. Aggression is very off putting to me, i value intelligence more, and as for 'masculine' if there is a penis, they are masculine, and thats all that they need. Muscles don't do much for me, and tbh, i prefer guys with a bit of squish to cuddle upto.
Woah buddy! That is so very, very, very false. Black guys do get women, yes. So do other races of men.





To think that MOST women prefer black guys is a major, major, major stereotype. I'm move than positive that MOST Japanese/German/Australian women prefer their own men.





One big thing that you're forgetting is the fact that the women who chase these military men just want sex. They believe in the ';big'; stereotype. Son, society tends to label them as whores. :)

Dealing with anger in a relationship?

ok so im a 17 year old male. ive been with this girl for 9 months and things are just starting to get bad. she always seems likes shes flirting with guys and at first i thought it was jelousy getting to me but then i realized she only does it with the people she constantly talks about or people she knows like her. i get really angry and it starts a fight everytime. the thing is it wasnt always this way, when we first started dating i danced with another girl and she freaked out and talked about how hurt she was. i didnt think there was anything wrong with it but i stopped anyways, next thing you know 9 months later shes dancing with all kinds of guys and im under the impression it means somthing cause she said it does. we took a break cause she said i need to find a way to calm down and deal with her basically. ive talked to her about slowing down the flirting a little and how i feel about it but shes under the impression letting other guys pick her up and tickling her or slapping her but is just play so its out of the question... i really love her but what should i do to deal with her flirtatious attitude? im trying to just accept it cause i figure it will be worth it but i need to find a way to stop yelling. do you think this is the behavior that would lead to her cheating? and also, if we are on break ive mentioned seems were not quite broken up she shouldnt have this guy that she used to like walk her to homeroom math and art EVERY DAY. does that seems unreasonable to you? any advice would be liked pleaseDealing with anger in a relationship?
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How can i help my friend??????

ok so she was texting her dude friend that she sorta likes. she asked her who he was taking to his dance. he sed none of ur buisness and she kept pushing him to tell her and he didn't. then she asked if he was taking a guy and he FREAKED OUT%26gt;

he was like

F*** you! like three times.

and they haven't talked since.



turns out she was taking a girl who was just diagnosed with cancer. and now he full out HATES her. how can i help her be friends with him again.How can i help my friend??????
ouch.

maybe your friend should not have bothered him much, but i do think he exaggerated. or he just didn't want to hurt the girl he's taking.

or be made fun of.

i think they should try %26amp; talk it out.

they were friends, so i'm sure they can forgive each other.How can i help my friend??????
tell her to go talk to him and tell him how sorry she is and just talk it out with him
maybe she should apologize to him
Im guessing he wont answer calls.

Have her text him and say something like:

';I know your really mad at me right now, and I'm sorry. I was just joking when I asked if you were going with another guy. I really wanna figure this out, so can you please, either call, text, or talk to me at school tomorrow? Again, I'm sorry! I dont want our friendship to end!';



Something along the lines of that, but maybe more casual?



Good luck!
Why did you let us know who she was taking to the dance? well anyways I think maybe she should buy him a poster of a Hot Chick and then apologize for what she said.
I didn't really get it , but..... i understood the part were ur friend asked a dude if he was taking a guy?? i think ? and if she did ask that i understand why the dude would be mad at her, but only because he took it the wrong way. BOTTOM LINE u should tell ur friend to talk it out with him , and tell him that when she asked that question she was joking around and that she didn't know that he had a date that had cancer. Basically tell her to tell him that it was all a huge miss understanding . If she is too scared to talk to him either tell her to build up the guts or mayyybbeeeeee u can talk to him for her although he might not like that.

I think i'm in love...help?

I think i'm in love... help?

okay so i think I'm in love with this guy whom i don't stand a chance with

here's our situation:



i met him 5 months back, we have a whole lot of common friends and the moment i met him i found him cute. we started hanging out in parties in big groups. we have never hung out just the two of us. he's really flirty, like he always hugs me and messes with my hair and steals my stuff (like this one time i was wearing a cap, you get the picture). i started to like him the 3rd time i was with him in a party but i thought it was just a happy crush. but then every time i see him my freaking pancreas falls to the ground! and! a week ago, we were like 10 people left at this certain party, this guy and i started dancing then a slow song played and we started slow dancing! like the ones at prom where his hand is around my waist and mine is around his neck. and i was leaning on his chest/shoulder. that lasted for about 30 or so mins. it was really blissful like i couldnt stop smiling. but we never talked after :( we rarely talk actually! just some casual ';where are you?'; text messages but other than that we just talk face to face during parties! we probably see each other every weekend or every other weekend.



i'm not sure if i'm already in love or if this was just triggered by that dance. but i swear that i haven't stopped thinking of him. he hasnt escaped my mind ever since -- and they months before that. i always look forward to seeing him and making myself look pretty. and when i find out he's not going to the same event im going to, i dont go anymore.



should i tell him, should i wait for signs, or should i just move on? we dont communicate much after all. and i dont know how to ask his friends whats up with him because they see me as someone who would never be interested with their friend...



except that i am. i really really am...



---we dont talk on the phone or text messages, but when we see each other almost every weekendI think i'm in love...help?
r u gay or somethingI think i'm in love...help?
Sounds like luuuuuv.
start txting him and c how that goes
tell his friends that you are interested, and if they tell him then it's already off your chest, he knows, and no awkward silence after you say it. if they don't tell him, then you could have asked what's up with him anyways... either way, you've got your answer

good luck (:
DONT WAIT! trust me i was waiting to tell a guy and then he moved. i still havent moved on. so dont wait but dont move into things too fast. just say at a party ';you know we should hang out sometime away from a party'; or something like that. and if theres a weekend that there is not a party then textt him '; im bored theres not a party this weekend! want to hang out?';

I think i'm in love... help?

okay so i think I'm in love with this guy whom i don't stand a chance with

here's our situation:



i met him 5 months back, we have a whole lot of common friends and the moment i met him i found him cute. we started hanging out in parties in big groups. we have never hung out just the two of us. he's really flirty, like he always hugs me and messes with my hair and steals my stuff (like this one time i was wearing a cap, you get the picture). i started to like him the 3rd time i was with him in a party but i thought it was just a happy crush. but then every time i see him my freaking pancreas falls to the ground! and! a week ago, we were like 10 people left at this certain party, this guy and i started dancing then a slow song played and we started slow dancing! like the ones at prom where his hand is around my waist and mine is around his neck. and i was leaning on his chest/shoulder. that lasted for about 30 or so mins. it was really blissful like i couldnt stop smiling. but we never talked after :( we rarely talk actually! just some casual ';where are you?'; text messages but other than that we just talk face to face during parties! we probably see each other every weekend or every other weekend.



i'm not sure if i'm already in love or if this was just triggered by that dance. but i swear that i haven't stopped thinking of him. he hasnt escaped my mind ever since -- and they months before that. i always look forward to seeing him and making myself look pretty. and when i find out he's not going to the same event im going to, i dont go anymore.



should i tell him, should i wait for signs, or should i just move on? we dont communicate much after all. and i dont know how to ask his friends whats up with him because they see me as someone who would never be interested with their friend...



except that i am. i really really am...I think i'm in love... help?
Personally i think no, you are not in love with him. You say you don't talk much so it's likely to be more of a physical lust or infatuation you have for him thats getting you confused but if you really think there is something there what are you waiting for? Tell him. Ask him out.Whatever..Life is too short and i reckon from what you say he has some feelings for you too. Just take a risk and go for it..could be the best thing you ever do.I think i'm in love... help?
Just move on, don't wait for signs about it.
buy some beef jerky.
just get him super drunk then ask him out.
Why don't you stand a chance with him? Of cause you do!

He sounds like he is into you so go for it!

Talk a bit more to him and see if you can go out just the 2 of you!

Don't miss the chance!
i wouldn't say it's love you hardly no the guy! i think your confusing lust/excitement with love

just play it cool try get some conversation out of him, he sounds shy maybe he is waiting for you to talk to him

I think im inlove with my cousin..?

I'm 18 now and hes 16. I don't know how i fell in love with him. It all started at the stupid parties and how he treats me. He always told me to stay away from guys and he will kick their *** who tries to touch or hurt me.at one party i was balling my eyes off because i was heartbroken by one guy and my cousin freaked out. He was hugging me and asking me who it was, and he would fight. I was touched by him :)i didn't tell him the name by the way.

And at the other party, he would always sit beside me or keep his eyes on me when im not with him. I got really drunk and passed out :( he took good care of me though he wanted to have fun at the party with his friends(hes a typical popular guys at a school) . He would go out to have fun and would come back every 20minutes.

Maybe hes being really protective because he never had a girl cousin. and his 'only' girl cousin is korean who other guys from school want to gangbang. :( yup,thats me... i danced at the christmas concert and apparently guys from my school wants to sleep with me..two guys tried to do something with me but luckly im still a virgin.

oh i heard from my cousins friend that when other guys tell my cousin that im cute or hott that kind of stuff, my cousin gets really mad at them.

i feel like he likes me too? my dad is keep saying that he gets really wierd around me.(my dad doesn't know how i feel, hes joking)

I don't know.... me and my cousin , we are quite awkward with each other and he gets shy. i know he's not a shy person becuase of how he treats his friends.

we're first cousin but not so related. I am he's dad's young brothers daughter. But its my step father so my cousin and i are not related by blood.



Is this love or am i just attached to him? i think of him all the time

since these parties and now im trying to get a break from parties.

I don't know how i feel. i never had a serious relationships so never loved anyone.

do you guys think im falling for him or is it just one time thing?

i never talked about this to anyone. sooooo confused.. :(I think im inlove with my cousin..?
He doesn't like you, he's just protective of you like he would be a sibling. My cousin is the same exact way with me but we definitely don't like one another like that. My cousin is very protective of me, exactly the way your cousin is with you. He just doesn't want to see his family member hurt. Even if he is your step dads nephew, he's still related to you by marriage and he's still considered family. Incest is illegal and very wrong, don't even try it.I think im inlove with my cousin..?
Incest is not looked high upon, and believe it or not. people in the south don't even care for incest, its that bad.
He sounds like he might be gay... But if not, ouch! Your COUSIN?
He's just being protective of you, it;s like he's taking a big brother roll. And your not IN love with him you just love him, like family. You may think he's cute, that's kinda normal. And your attracted to the way he treats you. So all you have to do is find a guy as nice as he is.
You both are young, and you don't want to do something that you will regret later in life...plus if it doesn't work out between you two, that's going to be tough between the families.



Just think of it as a crush, don't act upon it.
Warning: Incest leads to babies with health disorders due to genetics.
Tell him you love him but meaning that you love him as a family. It's a good way to get half the load off your chest.
Well...you're too young i dont think that u fallin in love with him but it's just a lust you felt good becoz he takes care u all the time and i dont think he likes u more than sister but anyway u should break yourself from thinkin or ur feeling it's not right way to falling in love with cousin



many guys in this world
watch out kid! it wont work, and the babies. [big dave]
Incest is frowned upon in most societies.
I had a friend who had a stepfather (who had children from a previous marriage) and her sister and the stepdad's oldest son kind of had a thing for each other. Let me tell you, once you're tarred with that kind of brush (meaning incest of any kind), you're more than likely not going to be able to shake that kind of stigma.



I know it may be hard now, especially since you're not blood-related, but believe me, in the end you'll regret it very much if either of you ever act on the feelings you have. It will follow you for a very, VERY long time.



This feeling will eventually pass....you just have to endure it until it does - sorry I don't have better news for you.
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  • Am I completely hopeless for a relationship?

    Okay, so I'm sixteen, about to be a junior in high school. People tell me I'm attractive (not trying to sound full of myself) and I've never even kissed a guy or gone out with one (except for a dance where it was girls ask guys and I did it as a favor for a friend who couldn't go and had a crush on him). Is that weird (The kissing and dating part, not dance part)? (Probably...) There was a guy who liked me and asked me to a dance, but I wasn't attracted to him at all, and he was kind of (more like REALLY) weird so I said no. I will say that I'm quiet, and I'm working on that. Why don't guys ask me out? I'm nice, smart, honest, and I'm not like a freak or anything. I will say that I don't go to a lot of parties, just because my friends and I don't drink or smoke a whole lot. I would go to them, but I never know about them because I'm not really friends with that crowd (because I went to a different grade school)... and, (of course) those are the guys I'm usually attracted to (the bad ones..) So pretty much, am I really pathetic considering my lack of ';experience'; and how can I improve? Also, how can I start getting invited to parties and stuff? Because even though I don't drink, some people (for some reason) think I do. (Pretty much, I know that's not why I don't get invited.) I need help!Am I completely hopeless for a relationship?
    dont worry!

    your only sixteen, it's good to be like that actually because ';good things come to those who wait';

    so don't rush anything, i bet when your like 20 or something you'll find that perfect guy in high school, because lately every guy wants that girl who's absolutely perfect, meaning they don't drink, cheat, are smart, and are not attention seekers and is a virgin.

    so dont worry, everything your doing is amazing, i wish i was like that actually, because i have a bf its been 4 years i've been with him, but sometimes i wish i was that hard to get you know,

    i am quiet too, smart, attractive, dont drink, still a virgin.

    but hey, i only got my first kiss this year and i'm 16 too.



    i didn't give my boyfriend a kiss till the 4th year, i played hard to get i guess, and now he wont let go off me because he knows it's hard to get a perfect girl (like us)

    so don't rush things, love who you are atm, because there are girls out there, like me who would die to be like you.

    you should never want to be something else, stay quiet, dont drink and be good.



    just remember who are at the moment is what most guys want for a girl that's perfect, so maybe no one asks you out now, but just know that if they don't ask you out then it just means that guys want to have fun now, and you shouldn't interfere with their fun, because the girls that their with are the girls that will end up torn.



    eventually when guys are ready, or when one guy becomes mature and looks for a decent girl he'll know who to chose, and you'll be one lucky girl. who will have her first relationship without heartbreaks, and it will be your first but also he'll think its REALLY cute that you haven't even kissed before, so take it for granted, be really happy of who you are at the moment.Am I completely hopeless for a relationship?
    geez can u stop with the parenthesis

    Guys and Girls: Whats up with my boyfriend?

    My boyfriend and I were together twice last year for about 3 months each time and he broke up with me both times. We've been going out again now for about 5 months and things have been great except lately he's been freaking out and acting all paranoid. He keeps having really wierd dreams. Two of them were that I was still dating different exes while dating him and the other one was that he cheated on me, although I know he would never do that. Also he's always asking if everythings ok and if I'm gonna leave him. When I told him about a dance I went to last weekend and how all these guys were trying to dance with my friend and I he got really wierd and said ';WHy are all these guys hitting on you so much??'; He's really not the overprotective type at all, in fact hes usually pretty chill but lately he's just been really nervous and wierd. Can someone shed some light??

    Thanks so muchGuys and Girls: Whats up with my boyfriend?
    Maybe he thinks that this time, you will be the one to leave him and it's making him nervous. He's trying to secure the relationship by showing u that he cares enough about u to be concerned when u tell him other guys hit on u. And he probably is concerned for himself. It's not that he doesn't trust u, he just might feel threatened by them. My boyfriend is the same way, only he's a bit more ';hostle';, shall we say, when it comes to me just talking to other guys, no less, lol but that's an entirely different matter. Your man is into u, and is nervous b/c he thinks he may have competition if u may be dancing with other men. Just show him that u only like him and that no one else is gonna change that. You two can work it out. Good luck to you!Guys and Girls: Whats up with my boyfriend?
    He may be guilty of something and is trying to put misplaced blame on you....
    wow! could it be that these dreams have influenced him more than usual? maybe they were a reminder that a relationship can end so quickly and so easy. and since you guys have had a rocky past, that mighy be making things worse for him. maybe you should reassure him of your feelings. remind every chance you get of your feelings for him. make him feel at ease.
    sounds like the reason he is acting parinoid is because he scared that the only reason ur going out with him 2 get even because he broke up with u twice last yr..so tell him that ur nt..unless u are..im nt saying u are..but..neways...ya his dreams are weird..
    wow uhh

    i guess maybe last time eh ended ti..

    and this time eh doesn't

    and it's all most been twice as long as last time

    so he's thinking he's not gonna end it she's going to!

    and he doesn't want u to leave him

    sooo hes' getting all freaked out..

    just make sure to show him u still like him every now and then.. surprise him once and a while

    The foundation of a relationship, and why a girl keeps coming back to the guy who treats her like dirt. Help?

    Hmmm... how to begin. Our relationship began when one night we were with friends and everyone was downstairs getting drunk [oh the joy]. Somehow, we went upstairs and laid down on the grass and started talking about previous things. We got to know each other pretty well, and we spent the next couple of days together. One night, I asked him what we were, and he said we were going out. Being ecstatic, I danced around happily, going peacefully to sleep that night because he promised me I wouldn't be just another 3-day stand like I was to my last boyfriend. Within two weeks, we were extremely close. One day I skipped school to go hang out with him, and we went to his house [which took a lot of effort mind you] so we ended up sleeping together [yes in the dirty sense] and we were both really satisfied. We were going strong for 2 and a half weeks until on Halloween night, I left him drunk at his friend's with my drunk best friend [and both my ex and my amazingly awesome best friend are REALLY horny drunks] so it wasn't fun. From what people kept telling me, he was about to cheat on me with her so I was freaking out. Well, withing a couple of days, it was all cleared up and he didn't cheat and he forgave me for being paranoid. A week later, one Monday night, I sat him down after having sex earlier and hanging out with our friends after, and asked him in what WAY he liked me. He explained to me that he liked me in ';I guess um, attraction';. I got up and left, like a crying baby [weak, I know]. I was about to tell him I love him that night but it was too unfortunate. Later that night, I talked to him again and he explained to me that as soon as he turns 20 he's going to want to start thinking differently, not want to date high school girls, etc. and I took that and he apologized for leading me on that he wanted an actual relationship [because he actually thought we were just f--k buddies]. On the friday of that week, I found out that he actually dumped me because he thought I was clingy. This was in November of 2008. It's been about 2 and a half months since then, and I'm still not over him, unknowingly why. I actually really do love him, and I've told him that before but he said he couldn't feel the same way towards me. I've been avoiding him for about a month and I've been pretty happy [although I cry at night sometimes]. Should I make an attempt to contact him or tell him I love him again? A week ago, my friend [who's also one of his close friends] told me that he was talking about getting back together with me. So I really don't know what to do anymore. I might be good at helping other people's relationships, but certainly not mine. Help?The foundation of a relationship, and why a girl keeps coming back to the guy who treats her like dirt. Help?
    I would not suggest going back. It sounds like he could have you whenever he wants and dump you whenever he feels like it too. This obviously have you on an emotional roller coaster. You don't need that in a relationship...or anything else for that matter. I think he just wanted what he said he wanted, a f-buddy which is obviously not what you want. I would suggest staying away and continue staying away and eventually move on because even you believe that he's treating you like crap and you shouldn't have to take that. Move on to something better, someone who actually cares and fall in love with you.The foundation of a relationship, and why a girl keeps coming back to the guy who treats her like dirt. Help?
    First off **** douche like that. He uses you for the sex, then tells all his friends you were ';clingy'; to cover his own *** and make you look bad. Now a month or so later he's consider taking you back? Uh I think that ought to be he's thinking about asking you out again, I don't believe you've been after him to take you back have you?



    He's conceded, let it go. He's going to treat you the exact same way. Have sex until he gets his fill, then dump you again to ';date'; some other girl he thinks is hot.

    How do you grind?

    im a girl and i have freaked with a guy before but im not that great of a dancer so we just kinda went side to side...is that really going to give a guy pleasure? is there anything not to complicated that i could do to make my man happy when we are dancing?How do you grind?
    if your are prepared, then get on all fours, and see what he doesHow do you grind?
    ok if you dont know if a guy is pleasured by that and you dont even really know what it is then your too young to even be doing it.
    Yes it's a very nice feeling. Just rub your butt slowly on his pants and make sure you feel it. Then turn around and grab it while you are whispering in his ear, instant winner everytime.



    You have to have rhythm and it has to be some kind of slow song.
    thats what i do but mix it up sometimes!!
    rub your butt in his crotch.
    You pour the coffee beans in the top of the machine, then turn the switch on
    Grinding is pretty much sex on the dance floor.

    Take those moves you use in bed and try them on the dance floor. With your clothes on ofcourse. And i'm pretty sure sex doesn't involve swaying side to side. =) give it a try...



    oh and usually the guys leg it inbetween yours... So you could also pretend his leg is a strippers pole! ;-) give it a try!
    I luv luv luv 2 dance!!!!! I've been a ballerina 4 7 years now %26amp; have always luved dancing of any kind!



    Well u don't have to grind. I personal think it's discusting to see guys/girls doing that! Just have fun when u dance together, %26amp; let the music flow through u. %26amp; since u say ur not the greatest dancer, well then, let him lead!!!
    Try front and back; up and down, side, side and other side, side or front, side, back, side. lol



    Seriously, enrol in a dancing class

    Why are there some girls so concerned about a guy's size, its pissing me off!?

    so My girlfriend ( it was a purely sex realtionship ) broke up with me because she said I was to big for her and I was like WTF? ( its on one of my questions before )...so yestarday, me and this girl ( that I know ) went to a party...and we were dancing and we had talk about sex before and stuff ( u know how it is )...anyways she felt my dick and I think she got like a bit freaked out...we did it...but she was a bit nervous



    Most girls appreciated but why is there girls that dont?Why are there some girls so concerned about a guy's size, its pissing me off!?
    I have the same problem dude, just keep playing the field until you find one that appreciates the assets that you bring her in the bedroom.Why are there some girls so concerned about a guy's size, its pissing me off!?
    Haha I hope this question was sincere and not just a way of letting everyone know you have big penis.



    It's painful and uncomfortable for some women. Simple as.

    Imagine knowing something too big for your anus to handle being shoved in there - it would make you nervous too.

    Some girls with bigger vaginal canals do appreciate it, but women with smaller tighter ones don't enjoy the pain. It's common sense.



    Don't get so pissed off with women being too nervous or scared to have sex with you, it makes you appear far too bothered about your own sexual needs than anyone else's.
    I'm one of the girls that DON'T think size matters. it seriously doesn't. You could have the biggest penis in the world and not satisfy a girl/woman. My bf and I do it a lot, but there's more to a guy than his penis size, muscle size, or his height. I love my bf because he makes me laugh and just an awesome guy in general. Society and their damn expectations need to **** off. Don't worry about it guys. Seriously. You'll find a girl who'll think you're awesome.
    Actually, this is the first time that I heard anyone complain of being too big. Most guys wish they were like you. Some girls actually like big ones. Most girls do.

    Am I a Tease? Am I skanky? am i trustworthy? HELP!?

    My name is Emmy. Here is my story:



    I moved to Washington from Tampa Bay in march of 2005...I was in the middle of fifth grade. I had never had a boyfriend, or been asked out, or asked someone out, or even danced with anyone. But, when I moved to a way smaller school in Washington, this guy Ethan asked me out about two weeks since my first day of school. I replied with No, because I was scared and didnt know what else to do. (it was one of those things where he asked his friends to ask me and i told his friends no and they told him lol!) I felt terrible.

    I did'nt tell me mom.



    Then, In sixth grade, I liked this guy named Evan, a lot, until I found out that he was going to ask me out. When he asked me out, I got scared again and told him Id think about it and then said no. Because I was scared. Also, this other guy Nick asked me out but I said no! Because I was scared and didnt know how to ';date'; lol. THEN, this kid Andy asked me to the dance, and i was freaking scared, so I said no!

    I didnt tel mom.



    Then, in seventh grade, my friend Cody told me he liked me in front of all my friends, and I got embarassed because I was scared and said no. Then, my BEST FRIEND Tyler asked me out. I said no and lost that friendship because I was feeling awkward and weird and scared. And I felt that it was my fault.

    I didnt tell my mom.



    In eighth grade I found out that Tanner liked me, so i started treating him weirdly and avoiding him, even though he's really nice. He didnt ask me out. This guy Collin asked me to dance when I was at the dance TWICE and I said no!! That same year, he asked me to dance 3 more times and i said...no!.

    I didnt tell my mom.



    This year, Freshman year, at the beggining of my year, I got asked to homecoming. He, Jacob, asked me to homecoming through a note that I found in my school bag. It had his number on it telling me to text him with an answer. But this time, I really didnt want to hurt him so i just didnt reply. Now I feel terrible.

    I didnt tell my mom.



    These people were---are great guys!!! (I still know all of them) and i rejected them. Ive never had a boyfriend. I keep putting myself down because of it, telling myself, ';Em just think of all the courage they worked up to ask me out and all the courage I took out of them with a simple two letter word!!!'; I dont feel ready...I still dont understand why i said no to anyone, but Evan the most! I LIKED HIM!!!!



    The really messed up part is that I like someone in seventh grade, Jer. I thought there may have been a chance, but of course I was wrong. He would never like me like that. Why would he? %26amp;%26amp;now I like someone named Tyler. (not the one who asked me out) but there's no chance. Hes a junior and has a girlfriend.



    Why is it that I liked Evan but said no? But Jer showed no interest in me and I would have said yes? And Tyler...the one I like now...if he ever asked me I'd say yes! Is this Karma for being a ***** to those amazing boys?



    And the other thing is my communication skills with my mom. Ive never told her any of this (congradulations! you're the first to know lol) and I ve never told her I liked someone and I havent even told her about my period which i have had for 2 and a half years.



    Guys that have asked me out/dance:

    Ethan

    Evan

    Nick

    Cody

    Tyler

    Collin

    Tanner

    Jacob



    Things I havent told my mom:

    My period

    Guys Ive liked

    Guys that have liked me

    My self esteem issues



    I think the main reason that I said no to all these guys was because I dont know what they see in me and Im afraid that Ive created this image of myself that they see, but if i do go out with one, they'll see the Emmy I see and will HATE it.



    Just please, Help me! Any advice, the boys, the mom, the communication skills, ANYTHING...

    Oh, and answer the big question: am i a tease, skank, or trustworthy???Am I a Tease? Am I skanky? am i trustworthy? HELP!?
    Well you are barely starting you're teen life. Im glad you said no to the others. Ok and why do you keep so many things from you're mom?WOW! I cant believe that? You don't have to tell you're mom about all the guys that asked you out, just the important ones. Like you're ';P';

    and yes the guys you like. You need to build trust with her other wise if she does nt know what you are going thru how will she help?





    Please do me a favor talk to you're mom TODAY! And if she cant understand then tell her too. It sooo important you don't even know.Am I a Tease? Am I skanky? am i trustworthy? HELP!?
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    You are insane... u keep a list of guys that ask u out. Shortn the story and i might answer your question...
    you sound like a fat psycho who hasnt been given food for years!
    Don't worry, I did the same thing until I found 'the one'. I like to think turning boys down means you have standards.



    Even if you did like them, saying ';no'; wouldn't be the only obstacle preventing you from getting together later. If it's meant to be you will know when that time comes, and it will happen. If they really love you they will keep trying, too.



    The first time I said ';yes'; to going out with a boy was the worst mistake of my life. Even when I said ';yes'; it felt weird. I avoided him in the beginning since it felt awkward... and later on when I tried to have a decent attempt at a relationship, I found out he ended up cheating on me with multiple people. I guess the thing to extract from this is to listen to your heart - if you are saying ';no'; or feeling iffy about the situation, there is probably a deeper meaning. You probably felt something wrong about the situation.



    I also think it is healthy to build a relationship with your mother. I never talked to my mom about guys I liked, but things like your period are important for her to know about.

    Hes socially retarded so I don't think he gets it. Help?

    I need help, but you have to know our story. Its long and dramatic, but i need help so badly.



    So. I've known this boy for about 18 months. We've never acted like just friends. I never knew if it was because this boy was just so socially retarded that he didn't know how to act or if he had a crush on me. From like the 2nd week we knew each other, if we were walking in school, he might try to hold my hand (I've liked him since the 1st day we met) and I would let him. If we went to a movie with a group of friends, he'd make sure we were next to each other and maybe hold hands or lean on each other. We ended up going to homecoming together with my friend and her boyfriend because he asked to join us. I asked him if I was his date and he said ';well, I can't really imagine dating anyone right now but you can be my semi-date if you need to call someone your date'; and i was like ';okay...';

    That night we held hands a lot and danced together a lot. When we were slow dancing I told him I liked him and he told me he didn't feel the same way. So I left him and went to dance with some other guys.

    He was my ride home so we left together and when I left he asked for a hug and it lasted like 2 minutes because he kept hugging me.

    After homecoming he started coming up from behind and holding me and if we were sitting together he'd wrap his arms around me and keep me close. I didn't understand what was going on. But hes so beautiful and amazing that I couldn't say no XD.

    At semester we stopped having classes together so we saw less of each other. But then when my dad died a month later he was there for me and I think I fell in love with him. Because for some reason everyone that I was close to other than him decided to take a **** on me two weeks after I lost my dad so suddenly. He was the only person that was there for me during my time of need (outside of my fantastic family and co-workers) and he seemed like my savior.

    We became pretty inseparable. Like we'd hang out 2-3 times a week even if that meant driving around and just listening to Nightwish and Pink Floyd (our favorite bands) for a few hours.

    Then I made up with some of my friends and started hanging out with them too. My savior started getting really sucked into World of Warcraft and he started ditching me to play the game. We felt a little separated again. Then I convinced him that I was more fun, so we went back to our normal selves. However, teasing him once when we were laying on the love sac, I bit his ear a little bit and he got all freaked out and some how or another we ended doing that for some time because it drove him crazy (in a good way) and i thought it was funny and was a little turned on by it. Then about a week later on the way home from a concert a few states away we had our first kiss. (while my mom was in the car but at the time we weren't worried about that lol) We kissed pretty passionately for about 2 hours. (my poor mom could hear the entire thing and was like dying in the front seat)

    After that when we hung out for a while we'd start kissing.

    Then the night before I left for Japan for a month (2 weeks after our first kiss) we kissed so much that we ended up dry humping on my bed %26gt;_%26gt; and then kissed for 30 minutes in his driveway at like 4 in the morning (he stayed over until then because my mom took pity on us)

    When I came back from Japan, I asked him if I could come see him and he said he wanted to play World of Warcraft. And I missed him so much I told him I was just coming over anyway. He made me wait at the door for a few minutes and he came to the door glaring at me. Certainly not the welcome I had expected on the plane ride home thinking only of him, as I'm sure you can imagine. He was like ';you can come in if you really want but I have work in 3 hours'; he didn't even give me a hug, I just followed him to the computer. Then he ignored me while he played but asked me to take him to the bank because his car was broken. I said okay because I'm a push over. His dad came home and was like ';OMG Julie how was your trip? I missed you!'; Eric (the boy) responded with ';Sorry, I didn't tell you she'd be here, she invited herself over, I told her not to come'; I thought I was gonna cry.

    Then I drove him to the bank to help out his dad, not Eric %26gt;_%26gt;

    and in the 2 minute drive it took to get to the bank Eric totally changed. While we were at the ATM he leaned over and hugged me and started kissing my neck. I yelled ';You need to get the **** off of me right now! ******* asshole, you think I want you to hug me right now?'; and he was like ';yes'; (too true...) and he kept doing it. Then he was like ';I don't really have work, lets go to your house';

    and because I don't have a back bone with this boy after hes been kissing my neck, I took him to my house.

    He came over about 6 or 7 times from that time to the start of school (maybe once a week) because he was so involved with his game. But we'd still get too close to having sex for people that weHes socially retarded so I don't think he gets it. Help?
    1. He needs to leave his game.

    2. You need to wait to have sex.

    3. You need to stop getting so close to him. If he chooses his game over you some day, you will get hurt.

    I made everything awkward...how do i fix this??

    okay, the other night my friends and i went to our graduation dance. it was my three best friends and a couple of my better guy friends, and we were all dancing together.

    so what basically happened was i let one of the guys feel me up, and after the dance ended when we were outside he kissed me and we ended up making out. i feel so awkward, because before this i wasn't attracted to him at all, i was just having fun. not to mention the fact i feel really slutty at this moment because it was at a freaking middle school dance.

    but to make it even worse, i spent the night with my friends afterwards, and when i was telling my best friend about it, she confessed to me that she has liked him for a really long time and was really jealous when i slow danced with him. i feel so bad! she's not mad at me, because i didn't know, but i feel horrible!

    i just made things really awkward between my best friend and my best guy friend. what do i do?I made everything awkward...how do i fix this??
    mmmm that probably felt really good while it was happening!! well in my case after these moments of ecstasy everything goes down hill... just try and stick by your friend and talk to her about it and be honest with her. With the guy... things are going to be akward =S Try and just be normal around him. Its going to be hard but its immature to ignore people so try not to do that.I made everything awkward...how do i fix this??
    just try to stop thinking about it.
    don't think about it
    I hate it when girls go and do an awkward thing like making out with me.

    Does he like me or did he change his mind?!?

    J- the guy

    A-my friend



    we were friends, but didn't talk like at all.....then he asked me to homecoming, AND bought my ticket :)

    we danced, and it was fun (not freak dancing or grinding)



    I didn't know if we were friends or what%26lt;-.-%26gt;



    then he invited me to a festival thing and we went with his bro and my cousin who are in the 9th grade... it was awesome :)



    i STILL didnt know if we were just friends or what....



    and he would text me being like ';how are you'; or ';hey what are you doing'; and stuff....



    a few days ago me and my friend prank called him for like half an hour but it wasnt mean or anything, and he figured it out later anyways



    i havent talked to him since then......idk whats up!!



    oh yeah, and 2 days before the prank call he WAS TALKING TO MY FRIEND AND ASKED HER what i would say if he asked me out!!! and then told her he was pretty sure he was going to....BUT HE HASNT YET!-



    HELP!!!



    did he change his mind???? I don't think i did anything wrong?? HELP WHAT DO YOU THINK!!~Does he like me or did he change his mind?!?
    i personally think that he still does, but he's trying to get you to let your guard down, so he catches you by suprise. guys love suprising pretty girlsDoes he like me or did he change his mind?!?
    hey thanks for anwsering my question! i will take your advice and see what happens!



    i think you should go up to him and say like whats up havent seen yeah forever and just get into a conversation. then be like on of my friends heard you say you were going to ask me out and then tell him if you do ask me out the anwser is YES!



    tell me how it go`s
    Well based on the information you have given, to me I think he likes you but he might be afraid to asked you out ya know ? Cause some I know some guys who have a hard time asking a girl out. He might not have the right words to say cause he might say something wrong.
    he likes you, he's just really shy about the whole changing from ';friends'' to '' more than just friends''. You should just definitely give him some time. I mean, the fact that he asked your friend about what you would say if he asked you out means that he wants to.. but is just too scared about what you might think about him or how you might feel ( awkward, confused, w/e). Just give him some time to figure out what he wants to do (give it a shot or try to forget about it) in the mean time, don't stress he likes you, that's a given. Hope this helped!!!
    He's in love with you. Find a way to communicate with him. Drop hints that you like him back and see what happens if he doesn't ask you out, then have the guts to ask him out. Possibly he's nervous and doesn't know how to say it up front, just beat him to it.
    Just say to him ';so when are we going out? My friend said you were going to ask me out and I'm looking forward to hanging out with you again!'; He'll surely be relieved to have that weight off of him.
    I think he is shy and still likes you!
    i hope your not the type of girl that waits til he calls and when he doesnt something is wrong lol try calling him or txting him to see whats going on if youve done that and he didnt txt you or call you back then he definately changed his mind.. but if you havent called or txtd him get on that asap lol

    good luck sweetie%26lt;3
    U can ask him out....or just be patient - some guys are shy:)
    He really likes you, but he's just nervous! Make it really obvious you want to go out with him (it wont seem desperate--you went to homecoming together!) and he'll follow through.



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    Long, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?

    Please don't answer unless you read... I know how long it is..



    About two years ago I met a girl at my school - and I instantly crushed on her. She was nice, pretty, and she had a small amount of friends. She was also being chased by three guys - Including me. So after being her friend for four months, I took her to formal, as friends. She liked someone else at the time in that way. I told her I understood, and we stayed friends.



    We talked - but soon I started to realize that my efforts were worthless, and I was spending to much time with her, and I could see my friend kind of disappointed I wasn't paying as much attention to him. So I stopped hanging out in a group (my best friend did hang out with us, but he never seemed to interested) and he confessed he's happy I stopped hanging out with her because he thought it was in my best interest.



    I told him I agreed, and I'd try not to do something like that again. Near the end of the first year (during school), I became closer to this girl again (I rode her bus at the time). I told her I wanted to hang out this summer, she agreed and wanted to as well. Then suddenly my family, who was at the time in Portugal, invited me to go along for two weeks. Of course I agreed - and off I was to Portugal. Before I left, I told her I had something I wanted to tell her when I got back. I was going to tell her I liked her.



    As it happens - I stayed in Portugal to study abroad, for eight months. I talked to her over the summer through msn, and I told her I liked her. She said she knew when I had told her I had something to tell her, and she said she had wanted to hang out so bad that summer. We talked once every two weeks, but nothing serious. Then I came back to America. When I went to surprise visit them at school - She gave me a jump hug, and I hung out with my best friend and her.



    I enrolled in school again, and I hung out with my best friend, deciding that I didn't want to make the same mistake twice. She came looking for me sometimes at lunch - and ended up taking me to a school dance (her invitation). We had some good slow dances, and she freaked danced a lot. She also flirted heavily - but apparently she had this ';boyfriend in Idaho';. I learned later it was a cover - a way for her to claim she wasn't single.



    So after that night - because I felt a bit stabbed that she would flirt with me and then tell me we shouldn't slow dance, I said fine. I simply stopped making ANY effort to speak to her. If she spoke to me I'd say hi, but that was the extent of it. Then I got a little closer - and I'd hang out with her in the mornings at school before school began, one day she even held my hand. Then I felt like she was playing with me, and stayed away. I just had that feeling.



    About two months ago, before school was over, my best friend told me, ';Nico - I've seen Molly walking arm in arm with this guy all over campus...'; he was sure they were together. And he was right, I saw them kiss about a week before school ended. That was that. Two days before school ended I rode her bus again - and when I asked her what was on her mind - she said she felt she made a mistake by asking her boyfriend out. I didn't give in to saying I had feelings for her.



    Today, I saw my messenger was on, and I saw she was on, so I IM'ed her. She told me after a few minutes about how she had dumped her boyfriend, and we talked. I told her about how things were running pretty good for me - how girls in summer school were flirting and all. Then she asked me to call her in fifteen minutes after she ate. I'm not superman when it comes to phone conversations - but come to think of it, I'm not bad either. We talked about life, and how she just wasn't compatible with her ex, and she had to dump him because he was cheating on her.



    She told me something I didn't know. She lost her best friend, and almost all her other friends. She hasn't even hung out with anyone this summer. I told her neither had I, because my friend is in Basic Training. She invited me to hang out next week Tuesday, I said sure. I pushed things farther (this is about 45 minutes into the conversation, longest I'd had with her was about 5 minutes in the past) and I asked her to the movies. She said yes with enthusiasm, and told me I would have to be ok with her cuddling. I told her of course.



    Now comes the real question...I thought her voice today was the one I'd heard back on the bus, when she sounded like she liked me, and I feel as if she's liked me for a long time now. She had actually messaged me on Myspace a few weeks ago, but I don't check my Myspace anymore, since I've no close friends other than two or three - none who are in town or near the internet.



    Now my question - Does she like me, and does she want a relationship with me? She's been a close friend since Portugal - I just never touched up on it. Or does she want to be friends with benefits, or whatLong, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?
    How can we be sure about it when you, having first-hand experience, isn't sure yourself? It's not only long to read, but it's confusing. She is confusing.



    All I can advise is, do not be quick to assume and jump to conclusions. The only thing constant is that, we all know you have feelings for her.



    And while things are just as confusing, be her friend and nothing else.



    Only when facts are clear and you know it in your heart that she likes you in return, then make the move.



    If you're confused and unsure, wait and observe her longer.Long, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?
    if u have feelings for her then express it
    u could just ask her, if she wants to be ur girlfriend or friend
    First of alll I laughed just at the fact you ran out of room. But anyways i would just ask her out ^^ if you are prepared for the only friends thi g then you have nothing to worry about ;)
    You want the truth? She wants a shoulder to cry on. And later may be a best friend, but nothing more serious than that, may be for now she wants a relationship but you're the guy she'll use to get over that other dude. If you can be that for her, then do it. If not at least be a good friend.
    I have a thing, i dont know what or how. But i understand people, who they are, how they act, what they do, they're personality really. And she sounds like a girl that cant make up her mind, she goes after 1 thing and ends up with another, she goes with the flow, and if you really like her, you should ask her out, there is no doubt in my mind that she will say yes. Hope things work out
    Wow. Sounds like you had a long, difficult time with this girl.



    To answer your question, yes--I do think she likes you. She seemed to like you in the first place before she got her bf. Then when she broke up with him, I think she was dropping you a hint when she told you about how she broke up with her bf and asked you to hang out immediately after (and cuddling? nice).



    So anyway, you should go for it. She seems to like you a lot and I bet you would probably have a good relationship with her.
    Aww so cute. Soounds liike she liike youuuu. Go for it--Theres no point in backing out. She'd probably not talk to you again. Lol. So be with her. She likes you, and YOU KNOW IT.



    You just wanted some back up ;p
    Well if she likes you, go for it. If she wants a relationship, go for it. If she just wants to be friends with benefits, THEN EFFING GO FOR IT MAN, COME ON!!! But seriously if you have feelings for her and she doesn't really have friends anymore, go for it(unless there is a certain reason why she doesn't have any friends). Just be prepared for a most likely bumpy ride my man. A real bumpy ride.
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  • Long, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?

    Please don't answer unless you read... I know how long it is..



    About two years ago I met a girl at my school - and I instantly crushed on her. She was nice, pretty, and she had a small amount of friends. She was also being chased by three guys - Including me. So after being her friend for four months, I took her to formal, as friends. She liked someone else at the time in that way. I told her I understood, and we stayed friends.



    We talked - but soon I started to realize that my efforts were worthless, and I was spending to much time with her, and I could see my friend kind of disappointed I wasn't paying as much attention to him. So I stopped hanging out in a group (my best friend did hang out with us, but he never seemed to interested) and he confessed he's happy I stopped hanging out with her because he thought it was in my best interest.



    I told him I agreed, and I'd try not to do something like that again. Near the end of the first year (during school), I became closer to this girl again (I rode her bus at the time). I told her I wanted to hang out this summer, she agreed and wanted to as well. Then suddenly my family, who was at the time in Portugal, invited me to go along for two weeks. Of course I agreed - and off I was to Portugal. Before I left, I told her I had something I wanted to tell her when I got back. I was going to tell her I liked her.



    As it happens - I stayed in Portugal to study abroad, for eight months. I talked to her over the summer through msn, and I told her I liked her. She said she knew when I had told her I had something to tell her, and she said she had wanted to hang out so bad that summer. We talked once every two weeks, but nothing serious. Then I came back to America. When I went to surprise visit them at school - She gave me a jump hug, and I hung out with my best friend and her.



    I enrolled in school again, and I hung out with my best friend, deciding that I didn't want to make the same mistake twice. She came looking for me sometimes at lunch - and ended up taking me to a school dance (her invitation). We had some good slow dances, and she freaked danced a lot. She also flirted heavily - but apparently she had this ';boyfriend in Idaho';. I learned later it was a cover - a way for her to claim she wasn't single.



    So after that night - because I felt a bit stabbed that she would flirt with me and then tell me we shouldn't slow dance, I said fine. I simply stopped making ANY effort to speak to her. If she spoke to me I'd say hi, but that was the extent of it. Then I got a little closer - and I'd hang out with her in the mornings at school before school began, one day she even held my hand. Then I felt like she was playing with me, and stayed away. I just had that feeling.



    About two months ago, before school was over, my best friend told me, ';Nico - I've seen Molly walking arm in arm with this guy all over campus...'; he was sure they were together. And he was right, I saw them kiss about a week before school ended. That was that. Two days before school ended I rode her bus again - and when I asked her what was on her mind - she said she felt she made a mistake by asking her boyfriend out. I didn't give in to saying I had feelings for her.



    Today, I saw my messenger was on, and I saw she was on, so I IM'ed her. She told me after a few minutes about how she had dumped her boyfriend, and we talked. I told her about how things were running pretty good for me - how girls in summer school were flirting and all. Then she asked me to call her in fifteen minutes after she ate. I'm not superman when it comes to phone conversations - but come to think of it, I'm not bad either. We talked about life, and how she just wasn't compatible with her ex, and she had to dump him because he was cheating on her.



    She told me something I didn't know. She lost her best friend, and almost all her other friends. She hasn't even hung out with anyone this summer. I told her neither had I, because my friend is in Basic Training. She invited me to hang out next week Tuesday, I said sure. I pushed things farther (this is about 45 minutes into the conversation, longest I'd had with her was about 5 minutes in the past) and I asked her to the movies. She said yes with enthusiasm, and told me I would have to be ok with her cuddling. I told her of course.



    Now comes the real question...I thought her voice today was the one I'd heard back on the bus, when she sounded like she liked me, and I feel as if she's liked me for a long time now. She had actually messaged me on Myspace a few weeks ago, but I don't check my Myspace anymore, since I've no close friends other than two or three - none who are in town or near the internet.



    Now my question - Does she like me, and does she want a relationship with me? She's been a close friend since Portugal - I just never touched up on it. Or does she want to be friends with benefits, or whatLong, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?
    How can we be sure about it when you, having first-hand experience, isn't sure yourself? It's not only long to read, but it's confusing. She is confusing.



    All I can advise is, do not be quick to assume and jump to conclusions. The only thing constant is that, we all know you have feelings for her.



    And while things are just as confusing, be her friend and nothing else.



    Only when facts are clear and you know it in your heart that she likes you in return, then make the move.



    If you're confused and unsure, wait and observe her longer.Long, Boring...Please don't answer if you don't read...?
    if u have feelings for her then express it
    u could just ask her, if she wants to be ur girlfriend or friend
    First of alll I laughed just at the fact you ran out of room. But anyways i would just ask her out ^^ if you are prepared for the only friends thi g then you have nothing to worry about ;)
    You want the truth? She wants a shoulder to cry on. And later may be a best friend, but nothing more serious than that, may be for now she wants a relationship but you're the guy she'll use to get over that other dude. If you can be that for her, then do it. If not at least be a good friend.
    I have a thing, i dont know what or how. But i understand people, who they are, how they act, what they do, they're personality really. And she sounds like a girl that cant make up her mind, she goes after 1 thing and ends up with another, she goes with the flow, and if you really like her, you should ask her out, there is no doubt in my mind that she will say yes. Hope things work out
    Wow. Sounds like you had a long, difficult time with this girl.



    To answer your question, yes--I do think she likes you. She seemed to like you in the first place before she got her bf. Then when she broke up with him, I think she was dropping you a hint when she told you about how she broke up with her bf and asked you to hang out immediately after (and cuddling? nice).



    So anyway, you should go for it. She seems to like you a lot and I bet you would probably have a good relationship with her.
    Aww so cute. Soounds liike she liike youuuu. Go for it--Theres no point in backing out. She'd probably not talk to you again. Lol. So be with her. She likes you, and YOU KNOW IT.



    You just wanted some back up ;p
    Well if she likes you, go for it. If she wants a relationship, go for it. If she just wants to be friends with benefits, THEN EFFING GO FOR IT MAN, COME ON!!! But seriously if you have feelings for her and she doesn't really have friends anymore, go for it(unless there is a certain reason why she doesn't have any friends). Just be prepared for a most likely bumpy ride my man. A real bumpy ride.

    Long, Boring...Click if you are up to reading..?

    Please don't answer unless you read... I know how long it is..



    About two years ago I met a girl at my school - and I instantly crushed on her. She was nice, pretty, and she had a small amount of friends. She was also being chased by three guys - Including me. So after being her friend for four months, I took her to formal, as friends. She liked someone else at the time in that way. I told her I understood, and we stayed friends.



    We talked - but soon I started to realize that my efforts were worthless, and I was spending to much time with her, and I could see my friend kind of disappointed I wasn't paying as much attention to him. So I stopped hanging out in a group (my best friend did hang out with us, but he never seemed to interested) and he confessed he's happy I stopped hanging out with her because he thought it was in my best interest.



    I told him I agreed, and I'd try not to do something like that again. Near the end of the first year (during school), I became closer to this girl again (I rode her bus at the time). I told her I wanted to hang out this summer, she agreed and wanted to as well. Then suddenly my family, who was at the time in Portugal, invited me to go along for two weeks. Of course I agreed - and off I was to Portugal. Before I left, I told her I had something I wanted to tell her when I got back. I was going to tell her I liked her.



    As it happens - I stayed in Portugal to study abroad, for eight months. I talked to her over the summer through msn, and I told her I liked her. She said she knew when I had told her I had something to tell her, and she said she had wanted to hang out so bad that summer. We talked once every two weeks, but nothing serious. Then I came back to America. When I went to surprise visit them at school - She gave me a jump hug, and I hung out with my best friend and her.



    I enrolled in school again, and I hung out with my best friend, deciding that I didn't want to make the same mistake twice. She came looking for me sometimes at lunch - and ended up taking me to a school dance (her invitation). We had some good slow dances, and she freaked danced a lot. She also flirted heavily - but apparently she had this ';boyfriend in Idaho';. I learned later it was a cover - a way for her to claim she wasn't single.



    So after that night - because I felt a bit stabbed that she would flirt with me and then tell me we shouldn't slow dance, I said fine. I simply stopped making ANY effort to speak to her. If she spoke to me I'd say hi, but that was the extent of it. Then I got a little closer - and I'd hang out with her in the mornings at school before school began, one day she even held my hand. Then I felt like she was playing with me, and stayed away. I just had that feeling.



    About two months ago, before school was over, my best friend told me, ';Nico - I've seen Molly walking arm in arm with this guy all over campus...'; he was sure they were together. And he was right, I saw them kiss about a week before school ended. That was that. Two days before school ended I rode her bus again - and when I asked her what was on her mind - she said she felt she made a mistake by asking her boyfriend out. I didn't give in to saying I had feelings for her.



    Today, I saw my messenger was on, and I saw she was on, so I IM'ed her. She told me after a few minutes about how she had dumped her boyfriend, and we talked. I told her about how things were running pretty good for me - how girls in summer school were flirting and all. Then she asked me to call her in fifteen minutes after she ate. I'm not superman when it comes to phone conversations - but come to think of it, I'm not bad either. We talked about life, and how she just wasn't compatible with her ex, and she had to dump him because he was cheating on her.



    She told me something I didn't know. She lost her best friend, and almost all her other friends. She hasn't even hung out with anyone this summer. I told her neither had I, because my friend is in Basic Training. She invited me to hang out next week Tuesday, I said sure. I pushed things farther (this is about 45 minutes into the conversation, longest I'd had with her was about 5 minutes in the past) and I asked her to the movies. She said yes with enthusiasm, and told me I would have to be ok with her cuddling. I told her of course.



    Now comes the real question...I thought her voice today was the one I'd heard back on the bus, when she sounded like she liked me, and I feel as if she's liked me for a long time now. She had actually messaged me on Myspace a few weeks ago, but I don't check my Myspace anymore, since I've no close friends other than two or three - none who are in town or near the internet.



    Now my question - Does she like me, and does she want a relationship with me? She's been a close friend since Portugal - I just never touched up on it. Or does she want to be friends with benefits, or whatLong, Boring...Click if you are up to reading..?
    I can't believe I just read all that, it was worth it. At least you're not the kind of person who writes questions with the most unbelievable lack of punctuation and grammar. Sorry, rant over. Anyway, I think it's a big possibility that she really does like you, she's just had a tough time in the past. Even though I think this, I'd be wary that she might just want you because of the 'benefits', but you'll never know unless you try it out. Sorry if this wasn't the answer you were looking for =D



    xo-Long, Boring...Click if you are up to reading..?
    She likes you, but she kind of sounds like a girl that would go out with someone for a week then break up because she likes another guy. So be careful...
    **** that was long!



    And sorry, I can't answer your question, only she can. Although it looks like you're in there buddy!



    ******* hell.
    took forever to read but i was multi tasking

    well it seems too me i have no clue

    haha

    best advice

    go to the movies with her cuddle with her and make a move she if she accepts the move

    you know?

    but she seems interested kinda maybe

    i dont know you made the first move you know not her

    Was he lying? what's going on?

    -he (steve) liked me for 3 yrs.



    -then i started liking him back.



    -my friends got MAD because they think he's a loser.



    -EVERYBODY at school was saying he didn't deserve me. they said he was too ';fat and ugly'; for me because i'm ';pretty/hot/nicest girl in class';.



    -we danced at pretty much every party but i didn't feel like

    the connection was always there.



    -he gave me a note saying he didn't like me.



    -a couple months later we freak-danced on a cruise ship. my friends and i got into a HUGE fight about it and steve was there to witness it all. when i left with a different friend he told them he didn't like me.



    -his friends told me he liked me but then they told my friends he was using me to impress people.



    -he accidently found a note in which i was talking about another guy (in the note i talked about how another guy said he liked my boobs but then i found out he had a gf).



    -2 of my friends asked steve if he liked me. he said ';no';.



    -also: he's kind of shy.



    any explanations?????Was he lying? what's going on?
    you guys are young and in high school. theres your explanation.Was he lying? what's going on?
    WHAT? WHo's dying?
    ...how old are you?



    got out with him! screw your 'friends'!!!
    Grow up and stop relying on your friends to help you decide on your personal relationships...
    he doesn't like you, he just wants your pooter
    Maybe he's gay?
    haters thats all
    possibly but it depends how old r u?
    yes your brain is like a BB in a box car
    You've said you liked him but the chemistry wasn't there. He said, she said, your friends, his friends said, if you like someone, who really cares? Now you want to know if he was lying when he said he liked you? Are you wanting him to like you even though you don't really feel the chemistry with him?



    I'd say he's backpedaling so as not to look pathetic to his friends, the cool thing to do, so to speak. It's called, ';saving face.';

    How do I impress him?

    So there was this dance a while back. and This really cute [scratch that] HOTT guy that asked me to dance. And we kinda knew eachother because we texted eachother before then. And plus my bestfriend knows him. but i kinda freaked out at the dance when he came up behind me. I pulled away and just stood there. because i was just speachless. truth is i didnt know how to dance WITH someone back then, and now i do.

    We're cool now. We talk again and stuff. I talked to him 2 weeks ago.%26amp; i told him about the situation i had at the dance and with him., except i used a different guy and a similar situation. Trying to kinda hint its him i'm tlkn about. And he gives me this FULL OUT explanation on what i should do. and everything. he was being really sweet. My bestfriend [who is friends with him] tells me that he's never been THAT nice to anybody ever before.%26amp;Idontknow if he likes me?

    So the same dance is coming up. and i wanna know how Can i impress him? Should i ask him to dance this time.or?How do I impress him?
    YOU SHOULD ASK HIM!!!!

    well keep talking to him.

    Improve the relationship more and more in till he is literally drooling over you.



    good luck!!!

    My marriage is falling apart! Please Help!?

    Well me and my wife have been married for 1 year already. We first started off as bf/gf It was mostly a sex thing.. It was just so damn great... we exhanged personal feelings... we ended up getting married in less than 4 months... that was probably for my stupidity.. we were both stupid for doing it but we had really liked eachother and didn't care what anybody else said.



    When we got marrried... this is where all the problems began... I was the jealous type she'd talk to alot of guys (in a flirty, hoeish) sort of way and went to the clubs alot and did those nasty freak dances... that really bothered me.. I however did open up to her and said I didn't like it and it bothered me alot... she responded back to me that she loves me and she wont cheat on me that all she talks too is guyss.... Well a couple times I caught her talking to her ex-boyfriends who leave her dirty messages on her voicemail, and she claims that there just playing around or she dont know how they got her number...I dont know if i should believe that or not.. she says her sister gave the guys my wifes number



    So everyday, there was no trust... we always argued... it was to the point where she ran away alot, and i kicked her out of my house.. it was an everyday thing... we'd break up and not talk to eachother... we'd both beg for eachother back... i dont know on top of my head why we always took eachother back, it had to have been more than 100 times... i just know we really had bad arguments.. and she wasnt afraid of me.. she actually was a hardass and wanted to basically get into fights with me.



    One day... we had this big argument cause she cheated on me with another guy... and she denied it... I actually hit her cause i was so pissed...i was so hurt from it.. i know i shouldnt of hit her but it just came out and i really regret doing it... she then stopped talking to me for awhile.. then decided to come back to my life... still denying of course she did not do anything.



    now.. i act like i dont care no more cause i dont wanna get hurt again... she did put me in jail and i went for a day for domestic violence, supposebly her mom called the police and she agreed with it... i dont know whether to beleive that or not. So after i was realeased I went to counseling to dismisiss the charges.. and then she assaulted me 3 weeks later then i put her in jail.... then she couldnt have contact with me, when she was realeaseed she wanted her stuff.. and wanted to end our marriage... but it didnt end up being like that... she came back still and wanted to work things out.. she still loved me... so I took her back like a dumbass.... and things still were not okay... she was so lazy... she didnt cook clean or even get a job.. she was a couch potato and freaking i had to do all the work my own self... I was freaking getting mad at her cause she would never help me do anything, I was basically being both the man and the woman in the relatonship...



    So after awhile.... after that... it was a breakup ';Get ouf of my house'; thing everyday... our arguments were even more horrible, that I myself was in tears cause I couldnt handle the problems anymore... I told her to just leave me alone and to get the marriage over with.. but she never wanted too cause she wants to be with me and shes sorry.... but then she gets so abusive when we get in arguments, she assaults me if she doesnt get what she wants then shell block the door from me leaving anywhere!



    Then finally... I spyed on her and was going through her phone.. and I saw lots of disturbing voicemails from guys sending her bunch of dirrty stuff.. and voicemails.. like one i heard ';hey baby are u coming over... when can i smack that around';... and she of course, said it was her cousin... and she grabbed the phone frmo my hand and pushed me to the door... and told me to behave... then my dumbass went ahead and i beat her up cause she kept slapping me and punching me in the nose.. she wouldnt even let me out of the house without pulling on my t-shirt... i was so damn mad cause i knew already she was cheating on me and she still denys it...i know im not a man cause i laid a finger on my wife.. but i couldnt hold it.. i still till this day am sorry for it i wish it never happend, but i ended up going to jail agin.. for dv assault... and was realeased the next day... sadly... everybody lost respect for me cause they think im the problem...



    After awhile, after all the threats shes left me in my voicemail... I hired an attorney to back me up for my case.. and he says he can back me up for self-defense... so my wife calls everyday saying shes sorry for all of this.. but her mom, again calld the cops.. cause she heard us arguing... my wife claims she stil lloves me.. shes going to change... and shes a different person and realises shes the one who messed up.. that she was never a good wife.... and shes trying to improve... she just doesnt want a divorce... I dont either.. but I feel its the right thing My marriage is falling apart! Please Help!?
    When you go through really difficult times in life, you can either let them tear you down and apart, or you can learn from them, and move on and make your life better.



    It's time to let this go. It's actually way past time to let this go, but since neither of you managed to pull yourselves together and walk away, you need to do so now.



    Once a relationship has deteriorated to physical violence, it is unhealthy, and it is time to walk away. Period.



    You guys may have felt love and passion for each other, but from the beginning, you did not have the respect, communication, and common values that are needed to have a successful, healthy relationship. Your marriage was based on drama, fights, game playing, and possesiveness. Nothing good is going to come out of that - ever.



    You need to get a grip on yourself, and value yourself and your life enough to get past this, let it go, and move on.



    You are feeling bad about yourself, and some of it is your own fault which you admit. The thing for you to do is evaluate yourself, and figure out what you need to change to make yourself a better partner, and deal with that before you look for another relationship.



    Part of getting to know yourself, and becoming a real man, is to learn to manage your emotions and your anger. That needs to be done first, for you. Then, you can figure out what kind of woman will bring you happiness.



    Some women, like some men, thrive off of drama and creating it. It sounds like that's the kind of person your wife is. If you have a short fuse, and issues with jealousy, you need to first learn why, and then learn how to manage them in a mature and healthy way.

    THEN, and only then, should you look for a partner.



    You need a woman who is secure in herself and does not have to flirt with other men and get attention from other men to be happy, not some silly girl who boosts her ego by seeking out attention from other men knowing already that it is going to upset you. That's a set up. One that all too often leads to death.



    Consider yourself lucky that you got minimal jail time and have a chance at self-defense, and consider it a sign that this is a chance for you to take charge of your life and change it.



    The choice is yours. Make the decision to make the changes you need to be healthy and happy and have a relationship that is going to build you up instead of tear you down...

    Or, continue down the path you've taken so far...



    I hope you make a good decision. Your life really depends on it.My marriage is falling apart! Please Help!?
    This question has already lasted longer than this marriage should have......Get out now, before something stupid happens like having children, getting arrested or worse. Neither one of you has the maturity to be married yet and that's OK.



    Wrap this one up.....grow up.....sit down and make a list of what you want in the next girl and what you DON'T want in the next girl.



    It isn't what she has between her legs (although i am not taking ANYTHING away from THAT), it is what she has between her EARS that counts. The one you have now has oatmeal (or worse) for brains.



    MOVE ON.
    divorce her! If she put you in jail, get rid of her!
    I myself believe that you are sexually addicted to her. Just remeber she's not the one and only choice of your life. A calm happy life includes a good sex. By insisting on a sick relationship you will also loose the sex.




    Dude, what is exactly your question here?



    The way I see it, both of you are too immature to be married and have so much to learn. Walk away, cut your losses and learn from the experience. You're actually lucky because you didn't get her pregnant.



    Before you tie the knot next time, learn how to find a quality person, how to build a healthy relationship (not just based on sex) and how to control yourself.
    Well you got married but you really didn't. At this point you could actually create a great relationship since you all got the bad stuff out of the way. Write down what you want your marriage to be and agreements that you can live with. It would be like taking the Boy Scout oath except you will sign the documents in blood. Give it 90 days. One last thing, the past is the past so do not bring it up! If anything comes up that does not move your relationship forward, it is off limits. You can make it has hard or easy as you like. Which shall it be?
    Haven't you two had enough? You both are acting very immature. Go enjoy life and leave her alone. find yourself for a change. Life is TOO short to deal with this crap. One day, love will find you. Just take your time and get you better. You need to heal. Get into counseling and get rid of your anger and jealousy behavior. Read 1st Corinthians Chapter 13. That is what love is. Good Luck!
    Leave now it's not worth it a marriage is not about that and u guys have problems its going to only get worse
    I agree with scott. This question took longer to read than your marriage should have lasted. Just get divorced. You two are toxic to one another.
    If you are asking whether we think divorce is a good idea, i think there has never been a situation where a divorce is sooooo necessary. If you can do these things to your wife and she can do these things to you, then you are quite clearly no good for each other, you should file for divorce and put this doiwn as a bad mistake, and maybe both of you could move on and learn from your such awful mistakes. Its a shame that people like you take marriage with a pinch of salt. It people like you and your wife that put men and women off marriage, if you marry someone you should be in it for life, its not a decision to take lightly.



    Move on, the both of you, and then maybe your lives will return to some kind of normality.



    I wish you all the best for the future.
    Aww man you really messed up with this one. You made the fatal error in raising your hand to your wife not once but actually twice that you have told us about. If it was me i would walk away especially after such an early stage of your relationship that both of you have displayed violence towards each other. That's something that would have to be looked at not by you but by a professional. Take some time away from each other and decide



    What do i want from this relationship?



    Because you are married a year as ridiculous as it sounds and you have detained each other and displayed violence towards each other the only solution to your problems is first of all attend anger management counselling 'each' and then attend couple counselling.



    This would be a last ditch effort to save your marriage which would take a lot of hard work, time, patients and effort.



    I am only advising you on couple counselling because you are only married a short while but if you were just a couple, not married, my advice to you would be leave her get away from her. You obviously can't control your anger and have inexcusably assaulted your wife. I find it difficult to comprehend how you are both acting in such a violent manner which is why i feel you both need some professional help, away from her parents and also away from your parents. 50% of all divorce relates to Family interference for the first marriage and 62% for the second marriage.



    Get counselling and for god sake don't don't hit her again, doesn't matter if she hits you....DON'T HIT HER SEEK HELP!!!!!



    I totally agree with Emmy, you have taken such an important and special part of love and marriage so lightly it's terrible, because i feel marriage is so sacred and special, maybe - just maybe you can both be mature, realise your mistakes and 'learn from them' and try salavage some sort of normallity in your lives and get on with your marriage, divorce is a last resort, please attempt all other avenues before you become just another statistic.



    Good luck if it doesn't work out through counselling you are both doooooomed!!!!!!!!!!
    that is a long *** question. Firstly, it sounds like u instigatied the d-violence, and should never have put ur hands on her in the 1st place. Now its normal for you to both become physically violent. That s**t is wrong, and can't be tolerated. Even if u still love her u gotta think with ur HEAD and get the hell out of that marriage. Its a sham. In this whole long *** question u didn't once say anything positive- about her, you, or the marriage. Open your eyes and accept the ONLY answer for you both is divorce. Harsh but true.