Freak dancing..hurts(my feelings)?

Yeah me and my girl have been going out for about 3 years. Now, I really love her but there is one thing that really hurts me.I am a sensitive guy and I would do nothing to hurt my lady. But, she loves to go out with her girls and then when she gets home I ask her if she freak dances anyone. She always responds, ';yes, it is just dancing.';She knows how i feel about it and it hurts me to know she rubs her thing and butt on other guys. Youn know i dont want to sound controlling and all but it really sucks. I would never do that to her but then she does it to me. I treat her well, I love her, I don't do anything she would find mean or wrong, but she does this to me. Now, I have girlfriends that do it and their boyfriends sound fine with it and some of them arent cool with it. And she says my friends boyfriends dont care. I dont know what to do..I think its slutty.Unless, its with me.But with ohter guys?Come on.I dont know what else to say.Is it cheating or what?Freak dancing..hurts(my feelings)?
I think this is about respect. If it bothers you and she disregards your feelings and does whatever she wants, then she doesn't really respect you. If she cares about you, then she would make you feel better about this issue. If it's just a dance, then she doesn't not need to do it. There are plenty of other dances she can do. Furthermore, if she's rubbing herself up against another guy, then the touching is coming from her not the guy. the guy doesn't need to touch her ';inappropriately';, he's already got the full show! plus, what are the chances that she'd tell him to back off, when she's already backed up against him!??!





If all she's done is TELL you that she's okay with you freaking other girls and she hasn't actually seen it happen, then show her. If it's just a dance, then it's okay for you to just show her how she makes you feel when she does it. Some times seeing is believing, and she's already got her mind set, so you'll have to push her buttons to see what she'll do--she's already pushing yours.





If it turns out that she's really fine with you freaking other girls, then you'll need to make a choice. You either find some way to accept the fact that she dances this way with other guys, or you reject this and move on.





Being in a relationship is about compromises. there are some things that I would not give up just because my boyfriend is uncomfortable about it, but there are also things that would. you just have to weigh it out for yourself, just like she'll have to weigh this out for herself.Freak dancing..hurts(my feelings)?
Its not cheating... but i think girls really should tone it down when they are with their partners.
I wouldn't say cheating but I feel it is disrespectful. I had the same problem and voiced my view. I don't know if it happens anymore because I DON'T ASK. If she doesn't mind you doing the same thing then she may not see your point.
l don't think it is exactly cheating, except for she knows it bothers you and she still does it.


have you actually asked her to stop?


is she trying to make up for something she doesn't get from you?


maybe you could go w/ her, when she goes out.


maybe she isn't even really doing anything and just likes to see you jealous b/c it reasures her that you really like her.





idk. l think the best thing would be for you two to sit and talk it out. and come to a solution.


hope that helps a little.


gl
I think you sound like a great guy with great morals. The world needs more guys like you. Yes it's kinda slutty her rubbing her thing on other guys I wouldn't put up with it if I were you. I would tell her this is the deal it only happens with me or we may have to rethink this relationship because I think it's cheating. And yes I also think it's cheating.
If she is still coming back to you don't worry. But maybe you should go out and ';freak dance'; with a few girls. Then if she asks you tell her about it and see how comfortable she is with the idea. Or you could always meet up with them sometime and ';freak dance'; with her and let her rub ';her thing and butt'; on you!
It's not cheating!!! It's just dancing. You should trust your girl to do the right thing. If someone touched her inappropriately, you know she would tell them to back the f**k up!! Your gonna have to learn not to let it bother you. Girls just wanna have fun!!! TRUST IN HER LIKE SHE TRUST IN YOU.
Its not cheating. And its not wrong you probably have some insecurities that you have to deal with cuz if she loves u and u love her u need to trust each other.
For crying out loud! It's just a dance. You better be care full you might loose her if you keep up the insecurity. It's not like their naked. Its fun!
No maybe you should be there with her so that she is shaking that thang on u!
This is the pain that comes with knowledge.





Ignorance truly is bliss. The minute you know an answer, you can never go back to ';not knowing';.





This is part of who she is, she does this when she goes out with your friends. She comes home to you, so you should be satisfied - and channel this energy of yours into pleasing her.





On the nights she is going out to fd why don't you go shoot pool with your friends or work out? Keep your mind active and you won't have the tendency to ask this question when she walks in the door.





Good luck ~
well, i don't think that it qualifies as cheating unless she's actually doing other stuff with these guys, but i do think it's wrong. you said that you are a sensitive guy and she's probably just taking advantage of that because she knows she'll get what she wants. i would suggest letting her go and finding someone as sensitive as yourself. you'll never be completely happy with someone who hurts you.