Is it ok for my fiancee to be grinding up on other guys on the dance floor while she's out of town?

She's been at a seminar 3000 miles away for over a week and she goes to clubs and told me that she was grinding up or ';freaking'; with other men who are at her same training and whom she met on this trip. She says that'sjust how people dance and that there's nothing wrong with it but I can't help but feeling uncomfortable. She got a little angry and told me it was a trust issue but it really is not because she told me everything that happened. I鈥檓 just not sure I鈥檓 comfortable with the messages she may or may not be sending out to guys on the dance floor. She assured me that no one touched her in any crucial areas and that it was limited to body rubbing and hands at her waist and arms but I still can鈥檛 help but be uncomfortable with the situation. She claims that it is healthy and that sshe does not feel that she was wrong in every way. The good thing is that our opinions are out there and that communication is open. She knows exactly how I feel. But in the end the conclusion was that I just have to deal with it or she won鈥檛 be happy. Am I overreacting or should I just let this go? Is it appropriate? Is it ok for my fiancee to be grinding up on other guys on the dance floor while she's out of town?
Grinding is very sexual in it's nature.



It is totally inappropriate for your fiance to be performing these actions with other men.



You don't go body-rubbing with other guys when you're engaged. Is it ok for my fiancee to be grinding up on other guys on the dance floor while she's out of town?
no, not OK...at all.
No, it is not cool
It is not very ladylike. A lady would not do that.

A tramp, or borderline tramp, would and it would be normal.

What have you go there?
No she shouldn't be doing that.



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I don't think it's appropriate, I'd be willing to bet the guys she was grinding up on found it to be more then casual dancing. Would you do something like that to her?
Wow.

Ask her how she would feel if you were grinding on other women.

Say you're going to a club and when you get back tell her about your escapades.
i think that its not okay but since it already happened and she knows you are uncomfortable with this you should let it go. but ask her to not to ever do it again. this could tempt her to cheat on you and so you should make sure she doesn't do it again
well im not a jealous person but i wouldn b happy if my boyfriend was doing that...



guys do get the wrong idea when girls act like that maybe you can try and explain that to her but i think you gotta do it in person.
My husband doesn't even like me to Swing Dance or Ballroom Dance with other men because of the ';signals'; that it sends, and those men never get to rub up against me!



Whether or not you trust her, you simply aren't comfortable with her rubbing on other guys, and there is nothing wrong with that. How does she feel about you ';freaking'; with other women? I assume that she is fine with it?



Let her know that there are other ways to dance and enjoy music without grinding on her partner. Offer to take a dance class with her when she gets back so that she will have more dancing options.
I don't think its appropriate behavior for a person who is in a relationship to act. She should also consider your feelings on the subject that it makes you uncomfortable she should stop out of respect.


I don't think it appropriate to dance like that especially if they are people you are working around. What does that say about your professionalism? And how is rubbing your @ss against another guys groin innocent? If she respects your relationship and her career, she'll stop being so childish and find another way to dance. It's not like grinding is the only way to dance in a club.
uh, i'm engaged, and i'd be seriously pissed off, as would my girl if i told her i was grinding at some club with some girl. Just normal ol' dancing is one thing, but grinding up on someone is pretty sexual and that's messed up. You should be super pissed.
Every woman has a different definition of commitment. Your gf maybe has no intention of cheating on you for she told you everything. However, I understand your concerns for if she were in your shoes, she would feel the same way. That is why it is important for a couple to share the same degree of ';sensitivity'; to avoid hurting each other's feelings.



When she gets back, find a way to talk to her calmly. Do not hide the truth. If she loves you, she would be watchful of her every move the next time she leaves town without you.
she sounds like she is either trying to make you jealous, or is trying to lose you, she obviously has no respect for you, or she wouldn't be doing that, you are supposed to be the only one she dances with and flirts with.....

no you are not overreacting, and no it is not appropriate
absolutely not cool, when you make the commitment to get married you give up party time, there is no reason why someone who has the desire to be your wife should even be at the club because the only reason guys go to the club is to pick up women. if she isnt willing to give up her single life activities then you may want to think about if she is even wife material. good luck dude.
I don't know about that, personally, I wouldn't want my boyfriend dancing 'friendly' with any one! Then again i am a pretty jealous person...



If you have a problem with it she should understand and stop, i mean if you reversed the situation would she be completely fine with you putting your hands on another girls waist and body rubbing... screw that! I don't think so...



Just tell her you don't want to hear it, because well it makes you uncomfortable...if she does things like that



I mean sure she's not going to cheat or anything . It's just the whole idea that bothers me..



The easiest way is to let go, and let her do her thing...



Every time those insecure thoughts come up, Just change them to positive ones, and be happy she's having a fun time on her trip


Naturally you are concerned because you are a guy and know what they are thinking in a situation like this. In reading this I do believe that it was all innocent and you have nothing to worry about. They were dancing and having fun - and that is all. She shared this with you because she had a good time and has nothing to hide. From what I read here it is all okay and you have a girl who is committed to you. I say this because I am just like her. I love my guy and have absolutely no interest in anyone else. I would have done the same as her - had a good time dancing and nothing else. You two have that open communication that is so important in a relationship - and I have confidence that if you let it go - because there's no reason to hang on to it - then you are well on your way to a loving and committed marriage.
you sound Intelligent, you probably know the answer already just need reassurance of it... show some back bone, and tell her you don't want her doing that its not much to ask. grinding involves her butt, legs, and chest rubbing on another man that is not her fiance. your not being controlling or jealous your being a normal person and she wouldn't appreciate it if you where out while she was gone grinding out the night with another female...don't get mad just tell her no more.