My friend is abstinent?

(we're 15) my friend says she's religious and isn't going to have sex till marriage and got a ring to show it i guess, but she always talks how hot guys are and would want to have group sex with nick,joe, kevin (jonas), and the guys from twilight, she'll also freak dance at dances, and last night suggested we play spin the bottle and strip poker(2 guys 3 girls) which we did, also she lets guys touch her boobs, her gay friend will then another (who isn't gay) she'll allow, do you see something wrong with this? or is it just me because i never say i'm gunna be abstinent but am shy and don't like those kinds of thingsMy friend is abstinent?
She's a bit of a hypocrite as a Christian, but as long as she isn't technically Doing It, then I guess she's following her abstinence.My friend is abstinent?
yep they're is something wrong with that.I doubt she'll actually have sex though. The ring doesn't prove anything, just remember that
future horn dog from the looks of it.... and she will be broke off soon enough....
there is something wrong with that. with what she's doing, she's doing something different than what she says. doing everything but sex isn't much better
Well, your friend is certainly cut from a different religous cloth than most. But just because she expresses her budding sexuality (albeit in the most risque and non-virginal ways) doesn't mean she's down for whatever, whenever.



Your friend might benefit from seeing her behavior through your eyes. If you believe she's embarrassing herself (proclaiming to be the Virgin Mary, but acting like Jezebel), then you'd do well to tell her how she's being perceived. Her behavior is outlandish to be sure for a girl who's so religious, but it could be indicative of feeling restricted by her religious beliefs. The old saying is preachers' kids are the worse when it comes to sinning, so...



Anyway, you guys are different. But she's still your friend. Try to figure out where all this behavior is coming from and be supportive. That's what Jesus would do.
Well i know how you feel because im shy about those things too. Im 13 but anyway i think that your friend isn't as religious as she says she is. Just because she has a ring does not mean anything its just a worthless peace of jewelry that says your pure. I have nothing against the ring itself just hypocritical people. Doing all those things and saying stuff in a sexual manner does not mean she's pure. And that means she wants attention from guys most likely she won't stay a virgin till she is married. Personally im not even Christian im Muslim but i plan on not having sex till i get married. The ring is cool and all but in order to make it significant she has to make good choices and be physically and mentaly pure from sex....
talking is different than doing.

She shouldn't tease guys. She is putting herself into a tempting situation. And, sadly, some guys won't stop at the teasing and will rape the girl who is always flirting around.



She sounds like how I was in my later teens. A big tease with the boys and a Catholic good girl infront of mom and dad. I learned my lesson the hard way (was teased, called names, gossiped about, later abused and raped).



If she really wants to wait til her wedding night, great! but she needs to keep that on the low down and she needs to stop flirting. One day she will flirt with the wrong guy and get hurt.



I highly suggest that you print out your question and all the answers (appropriate ones) and show her.



She is calling out for help. She might even suffer from borderline personality disorder. I'm being very serious because you have discribed me long ago. Catholic on the inside and naughty on the outside. I truly wish my self-esteem was higher and I could live my high school years over again.



If you are a close enough friend to talk to her about your concern, do it!! Don't judge her, don't use harsh words, just tell her that you are concerned about her behavior around guys and if she continues acting this way, a wrong guy will use and abuse her. You, as a friend, don't want to see her get hurt. She can always talk to a spiritual director at her church or somewhere where she isn't known.



Good luck! You sound like a good friend to be concerned. God bless!!