My parents are too overprotective... its like they're telling me I can't like any boys or anything?

I am 16 and i'm really close to my parents. But when I want to go to a dance with a guy or something, they freak out saying they don't even know the guy I am going with. I met this guy almost 2 years older than me and I like him as a friend and want to know him better. My mom wants me to have nothing to do with him because she says I don't know him. I don't know him because there is no chance to talk to him. What can I do to let them know I am not going to be an idiot and am mature enough? I know how this world is messed up, I know I can't to certain things. It is so hard for me to meet friends when 3/4 the time, I am being forced to stay home.My parents are too overprotective... its like they're telling me I can't like any boys or anything?
Yes, you DO want to go to a dance with a guy. At 16, that is normal and okay. The other side of the coin is that your parents [being responsible parents] have a responsibility for your welfare. Being 16 is so tough. You are certainly not a kid, yet you are not an adult yet, either.



First topic: Mom says, ';...nothing to do with him because she says I don't know him';. As parents, we need to know the 5 W's: Who, What, When, Where, %26amp; Why. That is, with respect to going to a dance, 1-With whom? 2-What is the activity [a dance]? 3- When does the activity begin %26amp; when does it end? 4- Where is this activity? 5-Why are you going?



Why do your parents ask all of these questions %26amp; more? And why do they say ';No'; more often than you would like? The answer is simple. I would scroll down for the drum roll here, but I'll save it. The answer is because they love you. The problem here is that they have had the chance to be 16 %26amp; know what THAT is like. But you have yet to be their age %26amp; experience what it is like to be a parent. With God's grace, that will happen for you. Till then, let's aim for a solution.



Here is a suggestion. first, anyone who you are going ANYwhere with, a dance or whatever, first to have them come over and meet your Dad %26amp;/or Mom. This is not a 57陆 second meeting of ';Hello %26amp; Bye';, oh no, no, no. It IS a sit %26amp; talk for . . . 30 minutes, or more. And this isn't done on the night of, either. This is done several nights or a week in advance. That way your parents can feel much better about your safety %26amp; welfare.



Next, I will turn your attention to another question I have answered recently, where my answer here would pretty much reflect that one. [See the link below] Go ahead and read it %26amp; see if the concept makes sense. Yes, and also apply that last paragraph. Click on that link %26amp; then come back here %26amp; read the rest.



Trust that your parents do love you!



Continue to demonstrate consistent responsible behavior %26amp; consistent good choices. It is hard, this I know. And with each passing day, it will become just a little bit easier.