Please help, I am 14 and I think I was raped at a party by this older guy?

So I am 14, I went to a new years eve part with some other girls from school. We were dancing and I started tallking to this guy, he said he was 18, I told him I was 14, he asked me to dance but I said that I felt he was a little too old for me, he said he understood and offered to get me a drink of water to appoligize for hitting on me, so I accepted he gave me water then left. So I drank the water then went to the restroom downstairs because I didn't feel great and the bathroom upstairs was occupied (the party was upstairs, no one was downstairs but me.) So when I came out of the restroom (all of this was maybe an hour after I had the water) my vision became blurry and I guess I blacked ot because I don't really remember what happend for a few hours after that (it was probably 10 o-clock when that happend but I'm not sure because I wasn't really thinking about time.) So then at about midnight or 1 I woke up and was laying in a guest bedroom in the basement, naked, with that 18 year old guy next to me who gave me the water. I was really scared because it was pretty obvious to me that I had just had sex, I mean the guy was naked and so was I, I can add it up, plus before this I was a virgin, and I just didn't feel like a virgin anymore (if that makes sence) So after I woke up I just got up and put on my clothes, the guy who was in the bed just looked and me and winked and said- ';great time, you didn't want me hitting on you, this was a lot better, but it never happend ok, because if it did, well I would just have to deny it and you would look like a liar, however if you want it to not happen again take those clothes back off and climb in bed with me again.'; I just ran out of the room crying and back upstairs to the party which was still going on, my friends were up there dancing, they asked me where I had been but all I could do was cry so they took me home (one of them recently turned 16 so she can drive.) My friends hae noticed I have been different since that party, it seems all I can do is cry, and even worse, I still have to see that guy in school everyday and he winks at me and gives me a smile which freaks the heck out of me, he is such a jerk. I was just wondering what did I do wrong and am I a slut, also how can I tell my parents what happend to me, do you think I got raped? and will people believe me or that guy?








ThanksPlease help, I am 14 and I think I was raped at a party by this older guy?
I really feel for you.





This guy was a jerk and you can't let him get away with it, chances are if he did that to you he's not afraid to do it to another girl.





The best thing you can do is tell your parents if your scared to talk to them on your own go to a friend or sister,brother or someone you trust to help you. and don't worry about them not believing you this isn't something anyone would lie about.


He deserves to be punished for what he did no one should have to go through what you went through.





I hope i helped a little, and i hope it all works out.





xPlease help, I am 14 and I think I was raped at a party by this older guy?
I'm pretty sure you were raped, if you woke up naked with him.


That's gotta suck man.:(





You're not a slut, he's a disgusting freak.


Tell your friends at least and work up to telling you parents.
I think it sucks that you dont really have any witnesses but ur friends can testify that you were gone for several hours and its ur word against his (and his not a minor so he could go to jail for this.)


being raped is hugeeee especially since u were a virgin. tell ur couselor or ur parents. just tell them just like you did here and hope hel get in trouble and you wont have to see him again.


thats horrible of him im so sorry that this happened to you.
Just print this out and give it to your parents. They should know what to do. If not, give it to one of your teachers.
in 14 also and a boy and you were raped im so sorry he druged you and raped you
tecnicily you did get raped. if the guy is 18 and your 14. If you want to make a big deal out of it and ruin this guys life you can or you can just move on. i mean if you dont remember it thats better then remebering it.
You are not a ****. You are a victim.


Now you have to remember to be proactive in a situation. Not reactive.


That means you have to prevent a situation before it happens, not worry after the fact.


Looking back you can probably see what happened for things to go the way they did.


Don't dwell on the negative side. Go to a doctor, get checked and tell him/her what happened. Be proud of your body and take care of yourself.
I don't know. I would still report it. Maybe he has done this before? So you still have your clothes? I hope you didn't wash them yet...maybe. You should still tell!!! Report this. Even if it's late.


Because this does sound like rape to me. He gave you roofies!!


Hopefully they can get a search warrant and they might even find the drugs. SO go to the police as soon as you can. And tell your parents,they can go with you!!
OMG report him immediately! he did rape you and but a date rape drug into your water! you might be pregnant as well. sorry to scare you, but please put him where he deserves to be. your too young! Rape is illegal!





NEVER EVER receive a drink from someone if you dont know them, for example at a party, club or bar, you never know what they may put in your drink. and dont feel like what happened was your fault because it wasnt! he should be put in jail! tell your parents ASAP. best of luck!
Go straight to the police. There should be no question about it. I don't understand how there possibly could be any question about it. You don't need to screen it through your friends, teacher, counselor, parents, or anyone. Sure you can tell them, but it's important that you report it as soon as possible, time only hurts you. OK, I take it back, go to the hospital first, and then go to the police.
If it was me I would go straight to the police [btw im 15]


I wouldnt even bother with my parents for me it would be scary telling them more so than perfect strangers like the police.


Maybe get your closest most trustworthy friend to go with you.


Depending on the relationship with your parents, maybe it would be better to tell them.


But either way the most important thing is that you tell someone and get that fcker locked up!!


Stay strong girlie, you don't have to worry about him if you get to the police they'll get to him long before he could ever get to you.


Don't let this guy get you or anyone else ever again.


good luck
You need to think twice before you do things like this.


And try hard not to accept drinks from people, some people put things in it to make you less able to do think about things.








You need to talk to someone.
you should tell someone, if not your parents, you should definately report it to the police because he shouldnt be allowed to get away with it. if you are scared about whether they are going to believe you or not they can do dna tests and stuff and then lock up the jerk. unfortunatley yes you were raped because you had involuntarily had sexual intercourse. if you dont know how to break it to your parents then get an older friend or family or someone tell them the story and then get them to tell your parents.
You should report it to the authorities....whether it's through your parents, a teacher or right to the police.





That would give them an opportunity to offer you some help going through what you are dealing with. It would also help them stop this boy from doing this again....doing the same thing to others.
if this really happened like this then you need to get your parents together and tell them and then call the police as quickly as possible it sounds like you took a date rape drug which some can stay in your system for up to a month so it is completly possible for it to still be there you also might want to take a pregnancy test to make sure i know its overwhelming but speed is the only way to make sure you get this guy... there is also the possibility that his semen is still inside you so talk to your parents as soon as possible
first, tell your parents. Then call the police and report it. Third, go to the Doctor and have yourself checked out. Fourth, I hope your father kicks the s**t out of this gutless punk.
that is such a horrible story :( poor you


you have to tell your parents...i agree show them this storyyou did nothing wrong!! there are ways of proving that this guys did it - like tests and stuff to show that you're not lying. that guy deserves to be locked up - creep. your friends will tesify that you were gone for hours - be brave! good luck xxxxx
call the police after you tell your parents no your not a slut your girl who's innocence has been stolen. hook him up to a lie detector this must not be a secret no matter if your parents get mad just let them read this if u don't want to say it it' OK to cry let your feeling out you can get sick from bottling yor emotions
yes he drugged and raped you i suspect, you should tell your parents and its possible he might have given you hiv or something, did he use a condom, you cant know that,, not going to be easy whatever you decide.,
Ok, well, you need to tell your parents and get counselling so you can heal. I dont know who people will believe. What you should have done was gone to a hospital or a police station right after you thought you had been raped, as they would've been able to find out who it was, and you would have evidence. Do you have anything from the party that may have had to do with you're rape? Unwashed undies, and unwashed sweater anything? I still think you should tell your parents, get counselling and get a lawyer, somehow i think people will believe you, if you keep you're story consistant, and your story looks pretty beliveable. You can get friends to back you up. They say they've noticed a change in you right? Finally, you're not a slut, that guy is a sick sick bastard
Jesus. Date raping son of a *****. Why can't he play fair? Get a damn lawyer and sue him! What's the legal age of consent where you are? You could get him for rape, and underage sex acts - which you probably couldn't get nailed for because you were unconscious.





He's probably playing with your head, and winking at you because he knows it will start making you think you just got hammered - when you got water.





Get him into court, and take a lie detector test - swear it in court.





I hate guys who do that to girls, why can't they just learn to talk instead resorting to something so damn cowardly?? If I was at that party, that guy would have his *** kicked. And his friends. And their friends. And their family. I'd bring out my entire martial arts arsenal, and whip out my home-made nunchucks and two small blades I use as fist fillers and for slicing necks when I retract my fist.
Hey Nikki,





I'm sorry to hear that you went through this experience, whether or not this guy did such a horrible thing to you. Unfortunately, the only answer that I can give you right now is to just focus on yourself, and get help from a mental health counselor immediately. Since you are only 14, I'm guessing that you need to discuss this with your parents. Perhaps they might be angry, but I'm guessing they are the only ones who can truly help you in this situation. I always believe in being 100% open and honest, however only you know how it is with your parents.





Really, take care of yourself right now, and forget about the others for now, or what anyone else might think. Your family is there for you especially for these situations. If you need help finding a good therapist, just send me an email and I'll do what I can to help you find someone fitting for you. But I can't stress enough how important it is for you to find someone to help yourself cope with the trauma you're experiencing, regardless of what actually happened.





Take care.
Well, what you described was pretty certainly a rape. If you want to accuse someone of rape, you'll have to submit to a rape exam. It's the law. The test will at least tell you whether you're still medically a virgin. If you are a virgin, then great. Who knows what happened or why, but you can put your mind to rest about the rape. If you're not, well, according to the story you told, you were raped.





Still, now, two and a half weeks later, there may be no physical evidence to convict him on and your word against his probably isn't enough. I won't say your story isn't a little far-fetched. It is, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen that way. It just means other people will wonder. Plus I went to a few New Year's Eve parties as a teenager, and there just might have been a drop or two of alcohol somewhere in the house. If anyone saw you drinking, it will be a serious problem for your side of the story, or he could just use it to embarrass you.





As for getting called a slut or whatever, well, every girl gets called that at some point in high school. Big deal. Is it ugly? Yes. Is it rude? Oh yeah! Does it hurt? If you let it, but it comes with the territory. And if you accuse someone of rape, you'll have to deal with it even more. Looking for a way around that? There isn't one. Sorry. You just have to suck it up if you want to speak out. Up to you.





If you want to do something, I'd start with the medical exam. Your school nurse or guidance counselor should be able to hook that up for you. Also, practice telling yourself the story of what happened that night without hiding any of the stuff you did that you don't want people to know about (drinking, flashing, making out ... whatever). Do you have the courage to own your behavior for that night? All of it? I'm not saying you did anything. Maybe you didn't. But if you did, it will come out, and if you tried to cover it, then your credibility is shot.





Hey, for all I know, you're as pure as the wind-driven snow, but I was never so well-behaved at a New Year party. Either way, you get no judgment from me as long as your story is true. But I do recommend you get the medical exam, just so you know. And even if you were raped, you'll still be a virgin in every way that counts. Medical virginity is the true definition of virginity.
Wow that's sad, and yes u were raped girl..


U need to tell ur parents.. this guy is a freak.


it's not ur fault ur not a slut he obviously put something in ur drink then followed u and raped u..


u need to tell someone about it, before it's too late..coz if u keep waiting no1 would believe u..
i would think so if you don't feel like a virgin anymore. also do you have bruises because that could mean that your were raped if you have bruises on your 'areas';
well all matters now is that ur not a virgin and there's nothing u can do about the rape...


peace EZ
i think u should keep this to jurself this very serious. i would tell a guidanse cousler if things happen again