Is he still into me........?

I posted this before but now more has happened and I am even more confused. I divided my post into two sections, ';history'; for what's already been posted and ';update'; for my most recent to this story.



History:



I was sorta seeing this guy and hooked up with him a couple of times. I met him at a party his cousin throws every other Saturday at a club downtown. Before anything happened we hung out as friends and he was always really attentive to me. Taking me out for lunch/ dinner and inviting me to his gym to work out. I now know I made a mistake since I know I care about him more than just a hookup buddy. On top of that I felt things moved too fast and once I realized this I spoke with him on the phone and said that I'd rather just keep things as friends with him since he said he's not looking for anything but I did mention I still wanted to hang out. He said he understood and sounded sad when I said that so now I'm wondering if he cares for me as more than something casual. If I could do it over I would have made him wait and taken more time to get to know him since it had only been a few months. I'm now wondering if my chances with him are shot. I know I might have freaked him out with that conversation since he probably thinks I'm pushing for a relationship even though that is not my intention, I do like him but would like to get to know him better before deciding if that's something I'd even consider. Maybe it wasn't the best idea to have that conversation with him and I should have just let it be. I'm always afraid of getting hurt and realized I am too over protective of this fear. A lot has to do with past disappointments with my previous relationship and once I realized this I started working on not letting these negative experiences take over my dating life. It's been about a month and a half since I last saw him and I decided he is worth taking a chance on. I really like him and think he is a good fit for me in a lot of ways. Can I still win him back the right way this time without things getting too physical too fast?



Update:

I saw him last Saturday at the party that his cousin usually puts on and when I first walked in the room and he saw me he immediately smiled at me. I briefly nodded back and then proceeded to the bar to grab a drink. I danced for a bit with my guy friend then casually walked over in his direction and talked to him. I know he started a class at the university nearby and asked him how it was going and he said he was stressed and decided to focus on school for his family and that he was thinking about going to law school sometime down the line. Then some girls he was there with ( I assume) walked over so I just walked away. I continued dancing with my guy friend and some other guys and I caught him looking over at me when I started dancing with them so it looks like he still cares. I sorta did the same when I saw him dancing with the other girls but I never let him catch me looking. We talked a bit more here and there but he seemed distant. Mind you this exact same thing happened a few months ago before anything happened. I finally decided enough is enough with him and after the party when I got home I sent his a text letting him know how I feel. I don't think at this point its too forward because after 5 months of hanging out I feel like I don't want to waste my time anymore. I said that it was good to see him and that I feel like stuff got off track after that conversation about the hookup situation and that I just needed time for myself at the time but I still liked him and let him know I'm not sure how he feels about it now but to let me know. I didn't get a response back which is what I figured would happen. I'm confused, did he just move on or just didn't care to begin with? But then again if his first reaction was smiling at me it seems like he cares.He also didn't know I'd be coming. I decided that now the ball in his court if he cares. I deleted him out of my phone and won't be attending those parties anymore for a while. This is it for me, I'm moving on if he doesn't care.Is he still into me........?
You screwed it up by being with him. He won't be more than a hook up if he didn't text back. He might have been smiling to be nice or to seem interested or laughing inside about that conversation. OR maybe he is into you but you are so ';he did this and I did that and they said this so I did that...ad nauseum'; Over the top girlfriend.

Get a vibrator and knock off a few pounds and when he sees you again you will be beaming and he will be drooling.

Otherwise get over it and move on. 5 months is nothing of an investment in a hook up scene. Back off, focus on your life, school work family exercise or whatever. Look around for a while without hooking up *see vib above. See what that does to your brain.

Caio bellaIs he still into me........?
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He needs his dick super glued to his leg.
Marriage and Divorce?



wth is your question?



You should post this in Singles and Dating category, maybe they have time to read it
honey, it sounds like you're living in some weird alternate universe. you wrote that you told him that you just wanted to keep things as friends. so why in the world do you think he would think that you were pushing for a relationship with him since you told him the exactly opposite thing.



secondly, when you said you felt like he was worth taking a chance on, you seem to have forgotten that he told you that he wasn't ';looking for anything'; which i assume means that he didn't want to be in a relationship. i am not sure how you think you could win him back when you never had him in the first place.



here's where i think the confusion lies: you probably think that when a guy makes out with you, he likes you. but that simply isn't the case. there are plenty of men who can easily get physical with women and feel nothing for them. this is the honest truth about men, just ask them. if they're eye-ing you up and down, it doesn't always mean they're into you, it could mean they just want to jump in the sack with you.



if he's being polite with you at a party, that's all he's being. if he's eye-ing you up and down, he probably just wants to make out with you more. you did the right thing by removing him and his info from your life. the more you contact him the less he'll respect you and see you as some desperate girl who can't let go. don't be that girl! best of luck to you.
you know from a guys point of view.....he's just not that into you...if a guy loves a girl...he would be crazy for that girl and would do all sorts of stuffs....i think you should move on...this is not love but a crush...the feeling of love is mutual and is never single sided