Not sure what to expect from him.....?

I was sorta seeing this guy and hooked up with him a couple of times. I met him at a party his cousin throws every other Saturday at a club downtown. Before anything happened we hung out as friends and he was always really attentive to me. Taking me out for lunch/ dinner and inviting me to his gym to work out. I now know I made a mistake since I know I care about him more than just a hookup buddy. On top of that I felt things moved too fast and once I realized this I spoke with him on the phone and said that I'd rather just keep things as friends with him since he said he's not looking for anything but I did mention I still wanted to hang out. He said he understood and sounded sad when I said that so now I'm wondering if he cares for me as more than something casual. If I could do it over I would have made him wait and taken more time to get to know him since it had only been a few months. I'm now wondering if my chances with him are shot. I know I might have freaked him out with that conversation since he probably thinks I'm pushing for a relationship even though that is not my intention, I do like him but would like to get to know him better before deciding if that's something I'd even consider. Maybe it wasn't the best idea to have that conversation with him and I should have just let it be. I'm always afraid of getting hurt and realized I am too over protective of this fear. A lot has to do with past disappointments with my previous relationship and once I realized this I started working on not letting these negative experiences take over my dating life. It's been about a month and a half since I last saw him and I decided he is worth taking a chance on. I really like him and think he is a good fit for me in a lot of ways. Can I still win him back the right way this time without things getting too physical too fast?



Update:

I saw him last Saturday at the party that his cousin usually puts on and when I first walked in the room and he saw me he immediately smiled at me. I briefly nodded back and then proceeded to the bar to grab a drink. I danced for a bit with my guy friend then casually walked over in his direction and talked to him. I know he started a class at the university nearby and asked him how it was going and he said he was stressed and decided to focus on school for his family and that he was thinking about going to law school sometime down the line. Then some girls he was there with ( I assume) walked over so I just walked away. I continued dancing with my guy friend and some other guys and I caught him looking over at me when I started dancing with them so it looks like he still cares. I sorta did the same when I saw him dancing with the other girls but I never let him catch me looking. We talked a bit more here and there but he seemed distant. Mind you this exact same thing happened a few months ago before anything happened. I finally decided enough is enough with him and after the party when I got home I sent his a text letting him know how I feel. I don't think at this point its too forward because after 5 months of hanging out I feel like I don't want to waste my time anymore. I said that it was good to see him and that I feel like stuff got off track after that conversation about the hookup situation and that I just needed time for myself at the time but I still liked him and let him know I'm not sure how he feels about it now but to let me know. I didn't get a response back which is what I figured would happen. I'm confused, did he just move on or just didn't care to begin with? But then again if his first reaction was smiling at me it seems like he cares.He also didn't know I'd be coming. I decided that now the ball in his court if he cares. I deleted him out of my phone and won't be attending those parties anymore for a while. This is it for me, I'm moving on if he doesn't care.



Well to my surprise he called me last Tue. I was pretty busy last week and didn鈥檛 return his call until last Sunday. Now he hasn鈥檛 returned the call yet. I yet again confused鈥?.Not sure what to expect from him.....?
For real, be done this time really. If he really likes you, he`ll talk to you. Especially since now you`ve opened that door for him. if he doesn`t talk to you, move on girl. If a guy is into a girl, he will get at that!!!! Oh, and next time, like you mentioned, don`t give it up so easily. It might be hard, but don`t. Then this kind of sh!t happens and you don`t even get a chance to get to know him really to see if you truly do like him or not cuz the sex already happened and the guy has no real incentive to stick around and get to know you. But you know that it sounds like. Just made a mistake. it`s cool, learn from your mistakes.