What's his deal...what should I do?

I was sorta seeing this guy and hooked up with him a couple of times. I met him at a party his cousin throws every other Saturday at a club downtown. Before anything happened we hung out as friends and he was always really attentive to me. Taking me out for lunch/ dinner and inviting me to his gym to work out. I now know I made a mistake since I know I care about him more than just a hookup buddy. On top of that I felt things moved too fast and once I realized this I spoke with him on the phone and said that I'd rather just keep things as friends with him since he said he's not looking for anything but I did mention I still wanted to hang out. He said he understood and sounded sad when I said that so now I'm wondering if he cares for me as more than something casual. If I could do it over I would have made him wait and taken more time to get to know him since it had only been a few months. I'm now wondering if my chances with him are shot. I know I might have freaked him out with that conversation since he probably thinks I'm pushing for a relationship even though that is not my intention, I do like him but would like to get to know him better before deciding if that's something I'd even consider. Maybe it wasn't the best idea to have that conversation with him and I should have just let it be. I'm always afraid of getting hurt and realized I am too over protective of this fear. A lot has to do with past disappointments with my previous relationship and once I realized this I started working on not letting these negative experiences take over my dating life. It's been about a month and a half since I last saw him and I decided he is worth taking a chance on. I really like him and think he is a good fit for me in a lot of ways. Can I still win him back the right way this time without things getting too physical too fast?





I saw him two Saturday ago at the party that his cousin usually puts on and when I first walked in the room and he saw me he immediately smiled at me. I briefly nodded back and then proceeded to the bar to grab a drink. I danced for a bit with my guy friend then casually walked over in his direction and talked to him. I know he started a class at the university nearby and asked him how it was going and he said he was stressed and decided to focus on school for his family and that he was thinking about going to law school sometime down the line. Then some girls he was there with ( I assume) walked over so I just walked away. I continued dancing with my guy friend and some other guys and I caught him looking over at me when I started dancing with them so it looks like he still cares. I sorta did the same when I saw him dancing with the other girls but I never let him catch me looking. We talked a bit more here and there but he seemed distant. Mind you this exact same thing happened a few months ago before anything happened. I finally decided enough is enough with him and after the party when I got home I sent his a text letting him know how I feel. I don't think at this point its too forward because after 5 months of hanging out I feel like I don't want to waste my time anymore. I said that it was good to see him and that I feel like stuff got off track after that conversation about the hookup situation and that I just needed time for myself at the time but I still liked him and let him know I'm not sure how he feels about it now but to let me know. I didn't get a response back which is what I figured would happen. I'm confused, did he just move on or just didn't care to begin with? But then again if his first reaction was smiling at me it seems like he cares.He also didn't know I'd be coming. I decided that now the ball in his court if he cares. I deleted him out of my phone and won't be attending those parties anymore for a while. This is it for me, I'm moving on if he doesn't care. Well to my surprise he called me a couple days later but I didn鈥檛 return his call for a few days. Actually I was pretty busy. I had an exam so I was studying and I figure me staying busy would work to my advantage since I won't be looking too available and this will give me the chance to put the ball back in my court and keep him guessing for a little while. Well now I don鈥檛 know what to think anymore. He never returned my call鈥nd I decided to skip tonight party. I just think if I really mattered to him he would have made a bigger effort. Not sure why he鈥檇 call then not return my call.What's his deal...what should I do?
Thats really long.



But anyway, guys are really oblivious and slow when it comes to calling girls back or texting them, or whatever.



This guy was in love with me apparently, but he never replied to my texts or called me back. He's still in love with me. Creepy.. lol.



But don't sweat it, if he likes you enough he'll eventually make a move. If you can't wait, ask him, otherwise.. move on



It's up to you.



You'll make the best decision i'm sureWhat's his deal...what should I do?
rape him.......quickly.....WITH THE FORK OF POWER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tell him the first part. There's only so much you can change, but if he has to change he needs to know why and how. Talking to him and directly addressing the problem is the best way.