Messed up relationship am sooo confussed?

Right the past 5 months i was seeing this guy from my uni... we literally started goin out when we met and we got to know each other along the way. i had been with someone to years before him and had broken up a month before that after 2years of cheating soo i was a bit hurt and to be honest i wasnt looking for anything.. but i met this guy and i REALLY liked him.. he was perfect.. things were slow at the start and we spent some time together and he used to text me all the time and i hate calling though we did call each other some of the time.. we even took a month before out first kiss... as this moment one of my mates found out that after a month we still hadnt kissed and when she asked him why he said he wasnt shure how i felt about him.. i must admit i had been a bit distant cos i had been hurt before .. i went home for xmas and we still talked and stuff but it wasnt the same .. when i got back he said to me that it was best we were friends it was for the both of us.. i found this a bit odd though i had a feeling it wasnt right so i waited till a uni party and i was dancing with guys and i realised from his reaction (he walked off when i was dancing with some guy and he was around me all the time) i realised he still liked me.. a week after that i spoke to him face to face and asked him what had happened he said he had finished with me cos he thought i wasnt interested and we sorted things out (just in time for valentines)... in the mean time though he has always insisted that i do not show him that i like him apparently i am a bit distant but i really had thought i was trying



we were fine till last week when i realised that i was falling for him and i got REALLY scared i mean i didnt want history to repeat itself.. soo i text him saying i think we should be friends and stuff only to realise a few days later that i didnt want that at all i felt soo down soo i text him telling him exactly how i felt i was then or never! he decided he was goin to come see me the next day which he did but problem is i had been drinking with my mates and i blacked out i dont remember anything but rumours have it i danced with my best mate who is a guy who doesnt get on with my bf at all..



day after however, i went to see him in the afternoon and he was fine and we were good at that point he ddnt say anything about dancing with the other guy but later on he came round for a drink at the bar with his mates and mine .. one of his girl mates seems to like him and he ddnt realise she was all over him.. i ddint freak out i waited till she was gone (which pissed me off cos he walked her out) .. he came back later and i took him to the side and talked to him about it.. at this point from his blank face i realised that he hadnt realised she was onto him to him she was simply a class mate. after all this we went home seperately and half an hour later he text me saying ';i think we should be friends. yeah friends. so we are friends'; ... i ddnt sound convinced.. but i asked him why he said he ddnt appreciate the way i spoke to him since the night before he had come in with me dancing with my mate and he ddint say anything (**hiint**) .. he said it was a minor! obv not cos he mentioned it!!! but he wanted to be mates.. the next day he kept asking if we could be mates and i said no cos it hurt tooo much and stuff he couldnt understand why not..





i have a feeling he isnt sure thats what he wanted i dont know why.. from the way he texted me it was more like he was still tryin to convince himself... and whu would he want to be friends with me?? and he was even tlking about meeting my mum and telling his mates properly what was goin on as all along they had been sortaa guessing (they are soo nosy!!) and we was goin to do the whole facebook thing as we both had in a relationship thing on but not properly now i have nooo idea..

HELP

(sorry for the essay))Messed up relationship am sooo confussed?
s'ok about the essay :)



the most likely thing is that he still likes you but you obviously hurt him before so yeah, be friends and take it from there. it sounds like you care about him so right now he's probably feeling like you'll hurt him again, so be mates and then you can kind of have it both ways :)



hope this helps! %26gt;.%26lt;Messed up relationship am sooo confussed?
The problem is neither one of you have committed to each other. You being stand offish and him being insecure. You both want a relationship with each other but, neither of you has stepped up to the plate. Come right out and Tell him how you feel. Ask him if he wants to be an exclusive. This way there is no confusion. Commit your undying love for each other and I think all your troubles will be gone and you can move in the right direction to a happy life together.

Good Luck